to want to poke my friend in the eye... for telling my dd

[ghostspirit]

my daughter is 17. she went to meet my friend today. she like a nan to my kids. daughter came home saying mum i found out something about you today... i asked what's that. that when you was pregnant you took an over dose of antidepressants. this was 13 years ago and i have never told my daughter about it she did not need to know... my friend had also said it infront of my daughters boyfriend. anyway i made up some crap and said oh no 'j' has misunderstood it. i said the doc gave me a dose that was to high for my body to cope with and it made me very dopey/sleepy... i said i had not told her because its not relevant... but im still pissed of that she told my daughter.

I would speak to your friend, it may have slipped out in conversation and she may have thought your daughter would already know about it.

#givingbenefitofdoubt

Wow. With friends like that who needs enemies? Does your 'friend' make it a habit to go spouting the personal business of herr friends to others?

I would be utterly furious with the 'friend'. To be honest if I were you I don't think I would have told your daughter the truth either.

Your "friend" has no sense of discretion or trustworthiness.

Nobody with an ounce of intelligence would think it was safe to assume your daughter knew already.

Your friend sounds dangerous actually and not really a friend at all.

If the OP's DD questions the actions of the doctor... well doctors don't automatically know what dose to give someone. Sometimes dosages need adjustment, and that's what happened in the OP's case. OP wasn't in any danger.

Her DD does not need to know.

Oh and yes, a poke in the eye is needed!

Omg I once told a friend about how Young I was when I first had sex, this was during a conversation about her very sexually inquisitive 11 year old (I know!!) and she fucking told her!
I was devastated that my 11 yr old DD's friend might tell my dd ... She managed to retrieve the situation by telling her she got it all wrong and I NEARLY had sex at 14 (nearly 14)
You do need to have a chat with your friend about what's appropriate, was it this dd you were pregnant with? I am sure you had your reasons and all that but its not something your dd has a right to know.
My sister found out my DM tried to abort her (hot bath, gin, jump down the stairs) aged 17 and unmarried, it's affected their relationship to this day. Yeah thanks Nan ... Who terrified our DM into doing it (they did marry and wentj no to have me ... Planned ... Which also upset dsis)

And how would that come up in normal conversation?!!! What the hell was she thinking of?

thanks rainbow...

i did tell daughter a little fib. but that's life. i don't want to tell her and don't have to. i don't have to answer to something that happend about 13 years ago.
i dont know how it came up in normal conversation. its not like its recent if it was i would sort of understand it coming up.. maybe she was reflecting or something... no idea

Have you had a word yet?