So after a lovely Christmas and New Year DH is back to his usual grumpy self. To cut a long story short, his job is under threat in a few years time and he is not really trained for much else. I haven't nagged or winged about imminent pay cut or anything. I have been supportive and tried to give him space to think what he might do next. Tonight, I heard an advert on the radio for a company near us who is recruiting. Just remembered about it now and so had a quick look on internet. That job didn't come up but I saw a couple of possible ideas and read them out to him. His reaction was to be angry with me - why am I looking at this now- it's Friday night type and so on. I asked him why he was being so defensive and he just stormed off upstairs snapping that he was tired. I feel really upset that he has ended the night like this and cross that he finds me so irritating (and perhaps a little pre-menstrual and tears as Christmas is over!). Tell me to pull myself together and stop over - reacting or ignore him and finish the cheese and the wine 