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To think you don't use your phone in a spa...

42 replies

TinkerbellaPan · 01/01/2015 19:53

Just that really!

Me and dp went to the spa near to us today, quite a naice place, had a massage each and a couple of hours in the general spa facilities.

Over the course of the afternoon we saw at least 3 other guests in the spa area on their mobile phones. Most were not on the phone (ie talking), but just (i assume) texting, browsing online, playing games etc. One girl was even in the sauna with her phone, and we also saw a bloke in there with full headphones! Shock

But even WORSE than that hoicks judgy pants was the guy who was walking round facetiming someone! I could hear him from inside the sauna: "that's the pool, here are the showers" etc etc.

So why would you pay to go to a spa and just sit there on your phone? Confused and worse, why would you go and facetime someone else, loudly, and disturb other guests?! Just relax and enjoy the quiet Grin

In fairness I would understand if you were awaiting an urgent message/call, though me and dp discussed this and struggled to think of a situation that was urgent enough you'd need your phone, but not want to cancel a spa day...

OP posts:
SuperFlyHigh · 28/05/2015 11:57

Wolfie - how sad am I that if I were in a rage and saw people on their phones (talking that is!) then I'd report them.

I am a bad bad person!

DragonRojo · 28/05/2015 12:08

I find my mobile very relaxing! it contains all my music and the book I am currently reading. Why would I go to a spa and lie down bored while I could be reading or listening to music? and how is it different two people talking to each other on the phone or face to face? not every one has a nearby friend to join them in the spa.

angelos02 · 28/05/2015 12:12

Constant mobile phone use is so needy and gives the impression that you have no friends/low self-esteem. Fair enough, checking on child-care, emergencies but anything else is so desperately sad.

Snugglepiggy · 28/05/2015 12:26

YNBU as far as I'm concerned but it seems that the minority view.But then I'm a bit older/ old fashioned in that I hate the inability to put down phones whatever is going on.I threatened to dump one friends in his pint of beer the other evening whilst out with a group of friends who meet up several times at year.He's constantly checking it throughout a meal,no matter who he sits by.Claims his grown up children of 24 and 22 may need to get him if they have an emergency.If I was lucky enough to have a oampering spa day I would leave me phone in the locker and enjoy daydreaming or read a magazine.But that's just me.

angelos02 · 28/05/2015 12:29

Snuggle I totally agree. It is beyond rude to check your mobile whilst out with friends. Gives the impression people are bored. Fine. If you are bored then fuck off.

Gottagetmoving · 28/05/2015 12:31

The whole point is to lie and relax without feeling bored. It does seem that today people equate doing nothing as boring and we have to be occupied every minute with 'something' There is no time for the mind to be quiet. Probably why so many people get insomnia, because their minds are constantly stimulated.

DoJo · 28/05/2015 14:28

Being comfortable doing nothing or being comfortable being alone are VERY desirable skills. Its good for mental health for a start, being able to switch off and relax. If you can't do it - you don't know what you are missing do you? The mind needs quiet time apart from sleeping.

According to whom?

Gottagetmoving · 28/05/2015 15:46

According to medical professional, mental health professionals,...and anyone with any common sense I should imagine.

DoJo · 28/05/2015 16:07

According to medical professional, mental health professionals,...and anyone with any common sense I should imagine.

Any links?

Gottagetmoving · 28/05/2015 16:26

Hundreds,..Google it.

DoJo · 28/05/2015 16:38

I have - didn't really come up with anything which seemed to tally with what you posted which is why I asked you as you seemed pretty sure it was widely known. I would appreciate a couple of links if you wouldn't mind providing them - it's an interesting topic and I am keen to learn more.

PuppyMonkey · 28/05/2015 16:42

Spas = shudder Confused

Give me a nice phone instead any day. Wink

Ladymoods · 28/05/2015 18:57

I think a lot of people are assuming that a phone is only used to check Facebook or Twitter but as a pp said many people have music or books or use it instead of a newspaper, possibly even indulging in a bit of online retail therapy, what is wrong with that?

I guess we all have different reasons for using a phone and a spa...

MistressDeeCee · 28/05/2015 21:50

Thats life nowadays OP...some people just aren't able to relax, unwind and unplug. Enslaved to technology. I find that pretty sad, Id simply hate to be like that...although I wouldn't exactly say "each to their own" re. the facetiming as its rude to disturb others.

MistressDeeCee · 28/05/2015 21:52

Does anyone REALLY need online links to tell them its beneficial for the mental and emotional health/wellbeing to be able to switch off and relax?Confused

glenthebattleostrich · 28/05/2015 21:55

I have internet and kindle app on my phone so enjoy just relaxing with my book and random internet shite I don't get a chance to look at when at home because I like to spend time with the child and husband and also run my own business.

I ignore calls, texts and emails though and have my phone on silent.

DoJo · 28/05/2015 22:24

Does anyone REALLY need online links to tell them its beneficial for the mental and emotional health/wellbeing to be able to switch off and relax?

Possibly not, but that's not what I was asking for.

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