AIB Ungrateful re lift?

[JennyBlueWren]

I don't drive but get about with public transport and until recently cycled everywhere but I'm now too pregnant to fit on my bike.
Planning to meet up with friends tomorrow and when discussing where and when a friend put up that we'd go to her house and she'd pick me up. That means she's driving out to my town, picking me up and taking me back again. I pointed out that I could just get the bus but she's insisted.

I don't mind them offering me a lift but I don't like that she just announced it as part of the arrangements without discussing it with me first.

Also I don't like the idea that they feel I can't meet up without them giving me lifts -this happened with another friend last week too. When I was cycling there wasn't much problem but now it's as though I'm stuck in the house without their help -which I'm not! We have a very good public transport system despite being so rural. I don't want to be a charity case.

So am I being ungrateful? Am I overreading how they perceive me?

I imagine you're feeling a bit like they're treating you as a child - arranging lifts for you without consulting you and so on. It is kindness motivating it, of course, but society does tend to infantilise pregnant women rather and I can well see that this would be irritating.

I would acknowledge to yourself that you feel annoyed by it and then try to leave that feeling behind, and accept the lift gracefully.

Okay I'll accept that I was being ungrateful -thanks for the perspective. I've not refused the lift or said anything to them btw (other than suggesting the bus) and am glad to have such kind friends.

I think the problem for me was more that I wasn't offered a lift it was just announced "I'll pick Jenny up" rather than "I can pick you up if you like" as though they were deciding who was bringing the crisps or something! Maybe just her accidental phrasing.

Iamallimportant I'm impressed you were cycling still although I know others who have. My bump is huge and despite my adjusting both my bikes (mountain bike lasted longer than road bike) I can't make anymore room for the bump! Not missing out on bike rides so much at this time of year anyway I suppose.