To ask NOT to be weighed

[haphazardbystarlight]

So I am back on the diet bandwagon. I lost a stone before Christmas.

I know I've gained a not insignificant amount (living in leggings and so on!) I can feel it a bit round my thighs and bum even.

So I am wondering wibu to ask if I can forgo being weighed this week ... (The diet I do is a VLCD one - I can probably shift 5-8 pounds in a week.) I just think the numbers on the scales would get me upset and panicky.

Id weigh myself, you never know it might not be as bad as you think.

Sacred - I don't

I'm an adult.

Well we can't all be perfect can we!

I can understand where you are coming from. Getting weighed, whether you know the numbers yourself or ask your counsellor to keep it secret, would be the best thing to do logically. This has nothing to do with logic.

I feel the same way. I will start eating healthily when all the shit food is gone but I don't want to know what I weigh until I feel better about myself which may be a week or two weeks or who knows? Numbers shouldn't matter but they can affect my mindset, I'd just stick with what feels right for you

All I can think about now is how bad it must have been! Eep.

Weight loss is different for everybody and I personally don't find exercise or tape measurements or a lifetime of healthy eating helpful - I don't like being spoken to like a naughty little girl as I am not and all in all I just like getting on with it I guess!

But I have been weighed and shamed. Sigh. Logically it makes no difference but it does.

It was meant in a rather more jovial tone than evidently it came across.

Weight loss is I suspect a touchy subject for many of us, including me.

You say you have been weighed and shamed OP

What did the person do or say to shame you?

I think that might be the key. If the person doing the weighing is shaming people, you really need to pick a different weight loss group.

Worra it was more a turn of phrase than anything. I don't know how much I've gained other than that it's "bad".

It isn't a group :) I tend to think the one on one thing can be a tad intense but since we live rurally there's no way around that really. I see it that I have to see her for the drugs (the products, I'm not actually on drugs!)

Oh ok I see what you mean, sorry I totally misunderstood.

So you just feel ashamed, rather than having been shamed?

Well you shouldn't. Weight gain/weight loss is a natural part of living and not something to be ashamed of at all.

Yes of course some people gain/lose too much and they get to a point where they want to re-dress the balance.

That's the point you're at now and it's a brilliant thing. Nothing to be ashamed of at all.

It might be easier said that done, but try to turn some of that 'shame' into determination. You can't change the past but you're just about to change your future, so try to focus on that.

And good luck

Aw what a nice message worra thank you

I feel better now!

Oh, you gave the flowers back?

Not good enough huh?

Bitch!

Haha!

But I have been weighed and shamed. Sigh. Logically it makes no difference but it does.

It makes a difference because the process of gaining/losing weight is hugely psychological - how you feel about your eating/progress is probably far more relevant than any data. I think there's often a big downside to frequent weighing - if the scales do not match the perceived effort and anticipated results, this can have a negative effect on the dieter's attitude to losing weight and future effots. Which is why I'm surprised anybody would suggest that you should have been weighed against your wishes.

Losing weight/living a healthier lifestyle is all about sustaining good but doable habits over time - potentially achievable without reference to any numbers or measuring. Scales can be a double edged sword.

I had surgery last month, so for the purpose of anaesthesia, had to be weighed. I have fought a massive battle with weight my entire life (lost over 12 stone), and do my best not to go anywhere near scales. As it was necessary, I faced the "wrong" way on the scales and asked the nurse not to tell me what the number was.

However, that weighing was necessary - if it hadn't been, I would have politely declined.

I think it depends on if being weighed motivates you or obsesses you if food is an issue. I tended to get obsessive with the scales. I recently declined to be weighed at my Dr as i'm only 10 pounds off my goal now and have conquered my binges etc. I told her my counsellor got me to chuck out the scales but she really pressured me, told me she 'wasnt just a pill pusher' (huh?) so i changed Dr's. I now go off how tight my jeans are for weight and am much happier. Totally realise this is due to my tendency to otherwise go hell for leather and get obsessed with tasks/stuff!

I think Cambridge consultants are obliged to record your weight. They can be audited at any time in theory.

You can of course ask not to know.

The main thing is you are back on and you can get it off!

I love a bit of post-Christmas Cambridge!

I've just had a quick look on Argos at body fat scales (I'm really keen to get back into shape after I give birth) and they might be a better idea than being weighed on bog standard scales because a lot of women retain water, you might be more muscular than you realise, etc, they're all reduced so they start at 7 quid.

I don't think those body fat scales are very accurate.
But your body fat is likely to be quite high unless you do resistance training (weights). Waist/height ratio is an alternative gauge for weight loss.

I never weigh myself straight after Christmas as I think it would be quite depressing. I always leave it until I have been eating normally for a month or so. I'm not on a diet though and don't weigh myself much anyway.

haphazardbystarlight I know you said you don't really like exercise, but it is really important not just for losing weight but overall wellbeing. Maybe try doing something that doesn't feel like exercise like a Zumba class or a walking club or try the 10 minute solution DVDs. There are loads of different videos on YouTube so you can try different things and decide what you like.