To tell neighbours we can hear them....constantly.

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Morning All,

Live in a 1930's, fairly solid, semi detached house. Next door neighbours are loud, constantly.

We are always hearing their TV (as in word for word dialogue), conversations and arguments....oh the arguments. They have vile arguments with her accusing him of cheating, they both swear at each other and they go on for hours, usually in the middle of the night. They also have a night approximately once a month to six weeks where they come back late, drunk and play their music so loud until 5 or 6am. It wakes my son (3) and we have a 5 month old too so end up with a night of playing bed hopping trying to get some sleep.

This happened again last night which I realise is New Years but it's not like it's a one off.

Would I be unreasonable to say something? Prior to us moving in my husbands Nana lived here for years and was stone deaf so I'm torn between thinking they don't care or don't realise?

They are very stand offish and not particularly friendly, should I say something or just suck it up?

And how do you even soundproof a house?

so dont tell them you can hear them and their tv 'constantly' as you keep saying in both the title and your first post, but instead focus in on asking them to be quiet at night time?

I don't think hearing a faint hum of a TV and hearing it word for word at full blast is the same, do you? But thank you for your very friendly advice.

And the noise at night is the TV, and arguing, and shouting to one another.

And I don't "keep" saying it, I've said it twice to emphasise the issue we are experiencing.

have you ever googled 1930s semi soundproofing?
funnily enough, there are a lot of posts on the topic
because there often is none, so you get to hear every word of conversations and all the dialogue on the tv

but yes, that is not to say you should have to put up with late night rows, or late night music etc. you could also maybe ask about which wall the tv is on, and maybe change bedrooms to avoid being next to party walls. sadly though, if you cam hear every word on the tv and normal conversations as well, it is a soundproofing problem

I think soundproofing is quite tricky. You need to get battons attached to the wall, create a space and get sound proof plaster board over. Then you will need to make it good by decorating.

That may not solve the problem. The sound may be travelling via floor boards and gaps in the mortar through chimney breasts for example.

I have no direct experience, but my dsis lived in a house with very bad soundproofing. Her DH drilled the walls in several places and filled any gaps with expanding foam. It made a huge difference.

Thank you, that's all really useful advice. Will investigate!!

god i used to live in a house with no soundproofing.
I think you need to get it soundproofed.
Obviously their relationship problems are not ok to be disturbed with all the time

Can't you join in the arguments? . I can just see you leaning over the fence and saying 'so who's the woman your DH looked at?'

Or 'poor partner, fancy being woken up by 'fucn cunnt' every morning
'

They must be very loud, we live in a similar house and our neighbour can't hear us and we can't hear him and we are soooo loud with 12 hours of live music during the day.

I would get the quote for sound proofing but don't ask if he would be open to this like another poster suggested, as he won't know you mean he should pay half the cost.

Are your rooms directly next to the adjoining room or do you have a hall and stairs, this can make a huge difference.

No all our "living" rooms adjoin, main bedrooms, sitting room and open plan kitchen dining room.

Happened again last night, they're so awful to each other. DS got woken up and had to come in with us, I ended up sleeping on the floor in DD's room. Think today is the day for action. I wonder if they'll be embarrassed when they realise we've heard everything?

Zzzzzz

Good luck with the sound proofing OP.

You need better sound proofing.
There is no point tackling about it really, they will just throw back 'screaming kids' to you.

We have this too. Its soo annoying. The dad properly shouts at the children and the parents eff and jeff at eachother. Ours also have a sofa out on their front lawn and many bags of rubbish festering. It looks like a tip. in summer they open all their windows and put their music on full blast and sit in their front garden on plastic chairs drinking all day long. (No fence, its very open.) Hope they move soon as there is no chance we can.

Oooh good, they sound so delightful!!