My MIL died yesterday. She was a warm, loving and kind woman whom my DC and I will miss enormously. During the mad times when we had three under 4 she kept us sane and fed. She was the best cook I have ever met and fortunately shared the secrets of her success. She suffered terrible loss widowed in her early 60's and her only son's death nearly 4 years ago but her focus was always on others. She never interfered, she helped. She was also very, very funny and a rabid socialist, probably the only one in the village! To people who didn't know her she was just an ordinary woman, to people who were lucky enough to be close to her she was amazing!