to hate going to places and events I can not leave easily?

[mickeyfartpants]

Like places far away or if you are getting a lift home and have to wait for the driver (which I am really grateful for) or places/events where you are obliged to stay. NYE for example, if you leave before 12 you are a party pooper. The pressure of having to stay out till 12 tonight makes me feel loathe to go out!

I often find myself saying no to going places if I feel I am going to be held "hostage" ie a friends wedding last year where we had to stay because she cried that if I left early the day would be ruined.

Is this a type of social anxiety or do others feel the same?

Same here! I don't mind going to parties, but like to have the option of leaving early. DH thinks I am a party popper, but sometimes enough is enough. Don't exactly like being last to leave!

Me too! Always have excuses up my sleeve! Am loving the fact I'm doing nothing this evening except a take away, bath and TV.

And double yes to going to other people so I can make an excuse to leave, rather than people coming here and staying until really, really late (especially me with young baby and needing to sleep!). Hmm, maybe DH is right about me being a party popper!

MrsItsNoworNotatAll I am glad to have found a kindred spirit. I am quite happy for people to visit me if they ring first but I am so much happier arranging to visit them then leaving promptly.

I hate being 'dropped off' anywhere by DH too, then being at his mercy to get back home.

I'm the same. YANBU. I get tired very easily and have always been like this. I also hate not to be able to go to bed by 10.30pm. These days I'm often not too well or strong (heart problem) and could need to go home if I feel faint.
We're not staying up tonight that's for sure!

Sparklingbrook neither me or Dh drive. Anywhere I have to go I make certain I can either get a taxi home or a bus. It has to be this way or I fret.

I am a non driver but I used to have a license before an accident. I think the new found lack of independence is the source of it. If we go to a family members house, we either run by their time, stay over or dont go. Their parties all finish at 1am. My LO goes to sleep at 8pm. So we are always screwed.

I can only take about two hours of social situations before I start to feel bored, although it's not normal boredom, I think it's my brain starting to switch off from the effort of socialising. It's like I need to do something else RIGHT NOW. I know when I feel like that I HAVE to leave or I end up either drinking too much in an effort to keep going or just shutting down and struggling to talk to people in any meaningful way. Not being able to leave when I want too is absolutely the worst kind of hell for me.

At the sort of weddings where you have to stay the night at a hotel you would never stay at in a million years, I go to bed after the dinner and watch the TV and try to avoid the evening bit altogether.

I thought I was the only one like this.

Yanbu

I hate my car being blocked in too. I get really really anxious. I park far away to avoid it.

That's brilliant Sparklingbrook! Will remember that one for the next wedding I'm invited to.