dh yelling in night

[superbagpuss]

I felt squashed during the night so reached out my elbow behind me

apparently dh had his eye in the wrong place and I elbowed his eye

he yelled out ow and said I hurt him

I said it was his fault for bring so close

aibu?

Accident

thank you

on the jury of 100% I will tell dh to duck it up,

My dh and I are about 14 inches apart height. I am very rolly in bed and somehow manage to put an elbow wrong on him often during the night. He does tend to shout but then falls right back to sleep. The only remedy would be for one of us to sleep like bat which seems unreasonable. Perhaps a bigger bed?

I know it was accidental, but did you apologise for hurting him anyway?

YABU. Why didn't you say sorry? And it sounds like you were aiming to elbow some part of him anyway which is mean.

Accident of course but I hope you said sorry. I teach DC that you say sorry even when it is an accident because the sorry is about acknowledging someone's hurt not admitting fault.

It's nobody's fault, it was an accident! My DH and I are always elbowing or headbutting eachother in the middle of the night, we just say "owwww, sorry!" have a bit of a laugh, and then go back to sleep!

LTB

I kick mine in the balls constantly. He gets over it! It was only an accident after all.

It doesn't have to be deliberate to apologise for hurting someone

Agree with the posters saying sorry. You have to say sorry when you hurt someone - accident or not!

"I felt squashed during the night so reached out my elbow behind me"

I'm sorry, superbagpuss, but that sounds to me as if you intended to elbow him somewhere - and that sounds deliberate, not accidental to me. Elbowing him in the eye was not deliberate, in that you weren't aiming specifically for his eye, but you were aiming for him.

I think you owe him an apology.

You should get a superking size bed..

yes I said sorry

and I had no idea he was so close to me, I just thought I was trapped in the covers