To just feel overwhelmed

[PumpkinPie2013]

I have one ds (13 months ) with my DH. DS is generally a good baby - eats well and mostly sleeps well.

We both work full time (teachers).

DH is very good and willingly does his fair share of things. Our house needs some work which we are in the process of doing.

However, I just constantly feel utterly overwhelmed

The house work never seems finished, I cook a meal but then of course the kitchen needs cleaning again. Washing is constant as is hoovering.

DS (like most one year olds) needs constant entertainment and is into everything. He is at nursery full time so I feel quite guilty when I need to do jobs.

I'm exhausted and have had one bug/illness after another for weeks

My nan (who I'm very close to ) is very ill with terminal cancer which I'm finding hard to deal with.

I just feel like I can't do it all My MIL is lovely but elderly and can't therefore help. My own mum works and has a lot to do with my nan. I don't expect anyone to help but lots of people seem to have family help which makes me feel

I know I should be grateful for what I have and I am (honestly! ) but everything feels so hard at the moment.

I don't really know what the point of my post is - I'm just shattered

I don't know any job that is more demanding than teaching (I am not a teacher btw but do some work in schools, and also have family member who is a teacher). I'm not surprised you feel overwhelmed. Batch cooking sounds like a good idea. It sometimes helps just to have someone to talk to, could you find a sympathetic online group/ friends? Best of luck.

FWIW, we went through that period of getting ill all the time as well, when my son was that age (now he is 2.5). I think it is just that they pick up everything, and you're so run down. This year, though, we haven't been half as ill and nor has my son. So hopefully things will improve on that level!

Actually too hasty probably has more than 1 child so does know what life is like with a 13 mo old, although def no idea of the level of work put in by conscientious teachers. When it is just dp and I with one of our 3 children it does seem very easy though, and the house def was tidier when we had just 1 child!

I actually think the best advice was from the person who said get out more, try and do fun things as a family when you can. also could you do the kitchen together with your dp - I have only just found out after 10 years with dp that it is less depressing to do housework together at the same time.