to think he should learn to wash a bloody plate properly!?!?

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I'm 16wks with my first, for the last 4hrs ive been craving vegetarian toad in the hole, So I decided so go make some about an hour ago (I know its late, DP is awake and up downstairs on the console), However I suffer with really bad sciatica so once I sat down on the sofa waiting for the timer to go off I had to ask DP to pause his game and go and serve my toad in the hole and put some gravy on it, There were no clean plates or cups (we only have small sets of 3 so not a rare occurrence), so dp had to wash a cup to make the gravy and wash a plate for my food. He brought my food in, I took a bite and all I could taste was.... SOAP. AIBU to think he could have at least washed the plate/cup properly :( My food was ruined. I had to put it in the bin and that really annoyed me as I have terrible morning sickness and when I crave something no matter what it is 9/10 its the only thing i can eat without feeling dreadfully sick... :( Well aware I'm probs BU

Yep ^^

I don't understand why you didn't just do the dishes while you were in there. You knew you would need a clean plate.

So you have a bloke who doesn't know how to wash up. How often does he do it? I don't know if YABU or not as I don't know if he is used to you doing everyting.
What about the washing machine? Cooking? All the other 'wifework'?
If he's crap at it, he needs a lot more practise, and possibly some direction from you until he knows how.
It's how my DS and DD became competent at most of the skills you need as an adult. Buying more stuff is a cop-out, and won't solve the problem.
OTOH, he could be a lazy arse who doesn't care what food tastes like with or without soap.
Only you know the truth.

DP obviously needs more practice washing up, hovering, bed making etc before baby arrives. Nip out and buy inexpensive crockery and cutlery sets for him to practice with. He will soon learn.

DH does this. I have told him how to wash a plate and he just will not do it. Worse he puts them back in the cupboard without drying so when you get a bowl or cup out it has a layer of stagnant water in it.

Told him I am buying a dishwasher and he does not want one

YANBU

That it was late at night is irrelevant, you were both up, this could easily have happened at lunchtime.

All he had to do was pause his game for 5 minutes, wash up a plate and a cup adequately, make the gravy, dish up. It's hardly slavedriving.

Are your tastebuds on overdrive, does he know this?

3 pregnancies later YANBU