To think it's bad manners to complain about your secret Santa gift?!

[ashmts]

Work secret Santa, first year I've done it. £10 budget and the woman I got loves chocolate so I got a choice of chocolate, some cadbury's (her favourite), some fancy stuff. Probably came to about £13-14. Anyway, in to work today and it's all round the department how much she hates it, she's had chocolate for the past few years, there was no effort put into it, it was just a fancy chocolate lolly.

AIBU to think even if you hate a gift you pretend it's nice? Particularly at work, and when you know the person will hear? I would have thought chocolate or wine would be pretty standard.

I should add that the gift I got was lovely and way over the £10 which makes me think maybe it's an unwritten rule that you go over budget. Also the woman herself is usually nice and I haven't heard her complain but she must have told a few people she hates it for it to get round the department. I'm quite upset, I really tried to get something she would like.

I think one of my last secret Santas years ago (I was off sick so couldn't go to party or wherever they handed them out) was leopard print knickers and a sexy scent/looking body lotion. I think it was eventually given to me but there was some sort of hoo ha if I should or shouldn't have it due to not being there (I didn't care but my friend/colleague did on my behalf!)

YADNBU - IF it's the recipient, then the height of bad manners & it's a thoughtful gift for someone known to live chocolate

My 12 yr old has better manners - she was given chocolate that she cannot eat as she is allergic to it, had the good grace to politely thank the boy who bought it as her secret Santa gift - he had gone to a lot of trouble to find out her favourite chocolate - it is her favourite, but she can't eat it any more, so she was actually gutted to get it as a gift, but she did not let on at all - if she can manage that at 12, then there is no excuse for an adult at all

OP, she's an ungrateful, rude cow. I'm always baffled by threads like this. I was brought up to appreciate presents, that it's the thought that counts, not what you actually got/how much it cost/if you liked it or not.
Even if you didn't like it, you don't say so. They've gone out of their way to buy a present.
You thank them and do NOT bitch about it to everyone who crosses your path behinfd their back afterwards!
Dragged up and ungrateful. Hope she gets coal in her Secret Santa present next year.

Thanks for cheering me up Hopefully they'll have found something else to bitch about by Monday.

It's bad manners to complain in the company of anyone from work, if it's a work SS

It's fine to come on Mumsnet and moan about it, as long as you are amusing

I used to work somewhere that did this, limit £5, I was always full of good intentions then always forgot and it was chocs/wine on the way into work the last possible day!