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To get slightly fed up with people being negative about where I live?

36 replies

Pyjamaramadrama · 24/12/2014 16:03

I live in an area that probably has a tiny bit of a bad reputation. I also live in a big city where there are a couple of naice areas but most have a 'reputation', so it's hardly unusual.

The area was probably worse 10 years ago but most was knocked down and rebuilt, what now remains are mostly ex council houses which were bought and then 50/50 new builds which are HA rented or bought.

It's pretty quiet and there's no graffiti or litter apart from down the odd back street remaining from the old. I've lived here for 6 years and never had a single problem.

Yet quite often when I tell people where I live, they pull faces as if to say it's rough. I've also been told several times firstly not to get a dustbin, then not to put any Xmas lights outside, not to leave a reef on the door, not to put anything in my shed. As 'the kids' will nick it, burn it, smash it 'round there'. The thing is there's no 'kids' hanging around and none of these things have happened despite me ignoring their advice.

I've had worse very rude comments but I can't really say as they'd definitely out me if the people were reading. But things along the lines of how they'd hate to live here.

It genuinely isn't any worse than anywhere else in this city. There's nothing specifically horrible and all my neighbours are ok, are employed or own their homes.

The best of it is most of the people who comment live in similar areas or slightly worse, people I know who live in wealthy areas say nothing.

Can anyone think of any witty comments to come back with?

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BMW6 · 24/12/2014 17:36

My DH & I live in a "rough" area of a city by choice - we bought a two bedroom house for less than the price of a one bed flat in "naice" areas.

Actually, my neighbours are all lovely - there's a real sense of community spirit. There are, sadly, some major drug users & dealers in nearby streets but they never seem to bother our street.

When I told my Dsis where we were buying she said "not many white faces around there though......not that I'm being racist"Hmm

Oddly enough she lives in a VERY naice area 100% white.......she's a member of the Labour party and I voted Tory last time (and prob will next time). Go figure. Grin

TheReluctantCountess · 24/12/2014 17:40

We used to live in an area that considered very nice and it was hell on earth!

It must be very annoying to have people constantly make comments or make faces. Unfortunately it takes a long time for the reputation of an area to change. I would just reply with 'I like it. I've never had a problem'. It says more about their judgmentalism (is that a word?) than it does about you and where you live.

Mammanat222 · 24/12/2014 17:41

We've just moved to a proper posh road...I joke that we're the riff raff here (we probably are .... we're HA tenants)

We spent the past 7 years living in a much 'rougher / crapper / less desirable' post code and our main neighbour was a prison yet it was a lovely home. I always felt safe and had no issues. If anyone ever said anything negative I'd point this out to them.

Post code snobbery is the reason we had cheap rent for 7 years though lol

TheReluctantCountess · 24/12/2014 17:41

Vrta, is everything ok?

greenbananas · 24/12/2014 17:43

I live in one of the most deprived areas of the southwest. Every time bbc breakfast run an article about child poverty, they use library pictures of my neighbour's children walking past the chippy a few doors down.

I love it here. I wish it wasn't so urban; because I grew up in a village, but there is a great City Farm close by. There are lots of languages spoken here, lots of different cultures, a great sense of community as well as some occasional trouble. The local Co Op is a stones throw away, and open all hours. The local school is excellent.

Some of my old friends were worried about me when I moved here, but I wouldn't move even if I had the money.

3WiseMenOr1WiseWoman · 24/12/2014 18:00

I have this. My nearest town is Hemel Hempsted. I just don't get why it's so looked down on.

I could take you to some very average (and outrageously) expensive areas of St Albans and if you didn't know about the post code snobbery you'd be meh, it's bland/nice.

Then I could take you around Hemel. OK, some areas don't look all that, but plenty of it's lovely. Also, I find people in Hemel town centre will actually say thanks for me holding doors for them or hold doors for me/move over on pavement. None of that in St Albans.

BigfootFilesHisToesInYourTea · 24/12/2014 18:08

Just nod, tap your nose and say "It's proving a very wise investment". You're ahead of the curve, spotting the next "big thing", or whatever Sarah Beeney/Kirsty Wotsit would say.

ElPavo · 24/12/2014 18:45

I live in a place like u OP!

I love my house in my cul de sac tho and like pp says, joke is on people living areas perceived to be nicer and paying twice as much for what?! Perception! Perception aint worth that much.

elephantspoo · 24/12/2014 18:51

I live in one of the most deprived areas of the southwest. Every time bbc breakfast run an article about child poverty, they use library pictures of my neighbour's children walking past the chippy a few doors down.

Ah, Salcombe. I can still remember the smell of burnt out cars and the sound of Buckfast bottles being thrown at garage doors.

Pyjamaramadrama · 24/12/2014 18:53

Vrtra can't quite always read the tone, was a rather stupid mistake Blush I'm sorry to hear that tonight is a bad night for you.

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Doyouthinktheysaurus · 24/12/2014 18:54

I live in a place that is often cited as the area to avoid. When people ask where I live I'm normally sufficiently vague and tag myself on to the next town overXmas Blush

The thing is, it's fine, I actually really like where I live and it's not in the slightest bit rough.

In real life people never comment tbh, it's only on here that I read negative stuff and I just hide the thread. Life's too short to be upset by words on a screen that aren't even intended to cause upset that's what I try to tell myself anyway

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