To feel a bit miffed that dp hasn't bought me a present

[Allingoodfaith]

I know I probably am.

I've recently became a SAHM at my request. We have no other income apart from dp wage. I have access to all bank accounts

So this year he has bought everything and spent a fortune on my family and even given my dd1 (19) sum of money he is not her df.

He recently paid to have my hair done, bought me new hair straighteners, new clothes and is booking our holiday abroad in a couple of days.

We said we wouldn't buy each other gifts - at my suggestion. If I'd wanted something he would have bought it.

I've bought him a little present of dd2 . I've just found out he actually hasn't bought me a present, not even of dd2.

I won't have nothing to open on Xmas day

I know I'm being pathetic

wow. you probably need to re-read your thread.
YABVVVU.

chippy I will later on in the day when she comes to spend Xmas day here.

I know I was BU. I don't know what came over me.

Ive been a SP with dd1 and no what a struggle it is. I think because I'm in a totally different situation with dp and he spoils me I turned in to a bit of a princess.

I just needed to read it on here. Dp is a lovely lovely man.

mary I love chocolatiers like that!

Why are you making out its all his money and you are ever so grateful to him for all this?! You're the sahm, not a slave. You are entitled to half the family income and equal spending money. You should have a say about everything that money is spent on, if you have both made the decision for you to stay home then his income is possible because you are providing childcare. It is family money.

Anyway....

That said... you both agreed no christmas presents. So its a bit late now! But you never know something may materialise! Next year make sure you allow for something small to open on the day.

It just sounds like you don't like your own suggestion - which is fine, we all change our minds! All you can do is remember this for next year. It is fine to be disappointed but not with your lovely DH - he was simply doing what you suggested, because he thought that was what you wanted.

I've suggested the same thing to my DH (not new this year) and will be rather bemused if he does get me something (I haven't got him anything!) because I really did mean it! Having said that, in a couple of years, I can see us going back to buying gifts (nothing to do with money - more an interest thing).

i won't have anything to open from dp tomorrow. i haven't had my hair done, got straighteners and having a holiday. there simply wasn't the spare cash. i had manage to squirrel enough to buy him a pressie from dd so have said its for both of us so he doesn't feel bad. i do feel a bit sad that there wont be a surprise but in all honesty he is shit at present buying and money is tight so its better than receiving a present i don't really need.

Wombat

The reason I want FC to visit, is that my DP says "don't worry about a pressie for me, there's nothing I need" which is probably true, but I still managed to find a couple of things I know he will like, and it will be nice to open things together.

It would take much imagination to sort out something small and chocolate shaped

I should have said the reason I want FC to visit allingoodfath

Wouldn't

If you wanted a present you should have said so. Glad you've realised YABU.

yabu, dh haven't bought each other presents this year either. We're going away for a few days instead.

DH wanted a watch (he's already wearing it) and a toy helicopter (he's already flown it) and a new Bluetooth speaker (he's already set it up). I felt bad there wasn't a present under the tree for him, so I wrapped a shoe box and put a note in it saying watch, helicopter, speaker. I helped dd sort out her present to him. He has wrapped some tops I tried on in a shop the other day.

Next year, agree to get each other presents. YABVVVVU to suggest no presents and then be upset that he did what you asked! It's very unfair. Now you realise it is important to open something, make sure he knows that next time - even if you feel the need to set a budget (but then don't be disappointed if he sticks to the budget)!!!