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Original poster

DH has locked me and DS out

52 replies

WhatEverItIsIDidntDoIt · 24/12/2014 00:46

He is drunk.

Today DH went out for his Christmas lunch/drinks with some colleagues. He WFH full time so socialising with colleagues is rare but he does go out with friends a few times a month but this has never happened before.
I decided that I didn't want to sit at home all day so I decided to come to my parents house but when I arrived home at 9pm DP was already home, had locked the door and left the key in the lock. I called his mobile, rung the doorbell and even shouted through the letter box. 20 minutes of making an arse of myself and the neighbours curtains twitching I got back in the car and went back to my parents. AIBU to be absolutely livid? I've spoken to a friend in RL and she is telling me not to make a big deal out of it as its Chritmas and it will make him feel awkward!!! At the moment I am foaming at the mouth, angry and am not sure how I am going to react when I see him. And to add insult to injury it has been nearly 4 hours and he has not registered that me or DS is not there!

Sorry if this is a bit ranty I am just V frustrated at the moment and I realise this should probably be in relationships.

OP posts:
53Dragon · 24/12/2014 07:46

If it's totally out of character I'd be worried by now.

Original poster
WhatEverItIsIDidntDoIt · 24/12/2014 08:51

Hi All,

I have suitably calmed down now, I got a text a 3am with a thousand Sorry's and he has just called to apologise again. I am going to get showered and go home to prepare for the big day tomorrow!!

Thank you all for your reasonableness, you have stopped me from making this into a much bigger thing that could have ruined Christmas!

Merry Christmas, everyone!

OP posts:
catwithflowers · 24/12/2014 08:55
Xmas Smile
Clutterbugsmum · 24/12/2014 09:15

Glad all ok now. And I bet he got the shock of his life when he woke and sobered up that you were not home. Hopefully this will stay in his memory for a while.

Have good christmas.

OriginalGreenGiant · 24/12/2014 09:15

I've done this to dh, with no alcohol involved. He was working a late shift, due home at 11. My key was in the lock and I'd dropped off on the sofa.

I woke up at 3am to 60 missed calls on my mobile...he's had to go to his mums after banging on the door as loudly as he dared at that time of night, in the pissing rain, for over an hour.

Op he probably feels awful enough...a few comments about 'shitty behaviour' from people I find a bit Hmm ...it's just a mistake, it doesn't make him the biggest bastard ever.

Hatespiders · 24/12/2014 09:16

I think it's absolutely disgraceful. He's a dad and his dw and 3 yr old ds are unable to get in and go to bed, not just because the key's in the lock, but because he's so drunk he's out cold? As many on here have said, what if you'd had nowhere to go?
I'd have broken in, no matter what the consequences, and got my son to bed.
Why do people get themselves in this state?
And while I hope he isn't ill in some way, even then he'll have brought it on himself.
I'd be so angry I'd explode, I really would.

musicalendorphins2 · 24/12/2014 09:52

I am glad you (and he) are ok. I was wracked with guilt over posting such an alarmist message. Sorry OP.

radiobedhead · 24/12/2014 09:59

Foaming at the mouth? Exploding with rage? Really?

Oh dear, some of you mustn't have much going on.

Shit happens op! Merry Christmas! Smile

HoHonutty · 24/12/2014 10:05

I would be fucked off too but hope you have a better day now.

plecofjustice · 24/12/2014 10:12

It happens. It's one of those habits you get into, particularly if you're usually the last one in, lock the door, pop the key in so you know where it is in case of fire.

Milk the grovelling ;) but don't hold it against him

diddl · 24/12/2014 10:20

Well I assume it was accidental?

Although he was obviously very pissed to not be able to hear the bell & you shouting & that would be annoying.

How fortunate that you had somewhere else to stay!

lemisscared · 24/12/2014 10:20

phew -his hangover will be punishment enough op but you are justified in milking this big time.

diddl · 24/12/2014 10:29

"but you are justified in milking this big time."

I used to leave the key in the lock, although I would have been capable of answering the door if necessaryGrin.
But one time we had all been out & husband's key wouldn't work due to mine being in!
We hadn't been there long & had to ask neighbours to phone a locksmith.
Husband has never mentioned it.

ilovesooty · 24/12/2014 10:34

For heaven's sake. It's a one off. He's not normally prone to this. He's remorseful. The OP has realised this. I doubt he'll do it again.

I'd hate to be married to some of you.

Mammanat222 · 24/12/2014 11:10

Glad he wasn't dead but I'd be contemplating murder.

My OH got drunk one NYE and passed out on the bathroom floor for a few hours - door locked from the inside.

I had to resort to having a wee in a bucket on the balcony.

Was furious, so angry. Only time in 8 years anything like that has ever happened but it still pisses me off now.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 24/12/2014 11:16

I am envious of anyone, drunk or not, that can sleep like that. A butterfly flapping it's wings on another continent wakes me up!

I think a simple 'Do it again and you'll think being dead is the better alternative Xmas Grin'. Will do for him today!

Dipankrispaneven · 24/12/2014 11:45

Look on the bright side, he now owes you SOOOOOOOOOOO many favours. In your shoes I'd be demanding breakfast in bed throughout the Christmas break, DH on full housework duty - and that's just for starters.

Gruntfuttock · 24/12/2014 11:47

"A butterfly flapping it's wings on another continent wakes me up!"

Shock Oh I say! I've told you a million times - DON'T EXAGGERATE! Angry

YouTheCat · 24/12/2014 11:53

No harm done. At least you had somewhere you could go and he sounds very apologetic.

Hatespiders · 24/12/2014 12:06

'Some of you mustn't have much going on'

Dead right. I wouldn't tolerate that sort of stuff 'going on' thank you very much.

Original poster
WhatEverItIsIDidntDoIt · 24/12/2014 12:08

He made me breakfast when I got home and has now taken DS off to run errands (buy alcohol). I am lounging around the house comtemplating what to do next, a bit of MN and Buck's Fizz maybe?

Thanks again for your support, DP is very remorseful and I have explained how upset I felt. I have been assured it won't happen again, if it does, well, that would be a whole new thread!

OP posts:
NanooCov · 24/12/2014 12:16

Have a lovely Christmas and ensure you use it for leverage as much as possible! To be honest I'd have been angry but more down to worry about whether he was ok or not.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 24/12/2014 18:25

MY H once took my car keys (with my house key on the ring) abroad with him in his jeans pocket

That was fun

mummyoftoddlers · 24/12/2014 18:35

My partner has done this to me more than once. Unfortunately I didn't have any close friends or family so had to sit on the doorstep and wait a few hours to be let in. I made sure our new place didn't have those types of locks

FelineLou · 24/12/2014 18:37

You can have a thumb lock installed. Locks without key inside. I got so fed up having to ring with shopping, dog etc that i paid out for new barrels. So glad I did.
I can answer the door without scouting around for key - wonderful so worth it. Make him pay while he is still remorseful.

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