to think DH is mean?

[LarrytheCucumber]

We are going to relatives for Christmas. There will be three children there who are closely related to us and one who is not. We have met this child at Christmas before but she doesn't 'know' us. I want to buy the child a small gift, eg Crayola pens and a colouring book, so that she doesn't feel left out when the children who are related to us open their presents. DH thinks this is totally unnecessary. The child is 5. Am I being unreasonable?

YANBU - Just buy it. Ask him how he woud have felt as a little boy if he had been excluded like this!!

He is mean. Id definitely buy her something.

Buy the child a present.

Yes he's being mean. Get a little gift.

That sounds like a lovely idea (and if money is tight there might be something in Poundland that would do the job even?)

DH not being mean but not as thoughtful as you this time round

He's being mean.... she's only 5 and wont understand why she hasn't got anything to open. Ignire him and buy it anyway x

YANBU. I don't know if it is mean but your DH certainly comes across as mean spirited. Who would reasonably deny a 5 year old a small gift when you are exchanging presents with all the other children there?

Definitely buy a little something if you can afford it. It would be a shame to leave a child out at Christmas for the sake of a couple of quid and some wrapping paper.

It would be awful to give out presents to everyone but this child for the sake of the price of a Beanie Boo or a pokemon album.

He is being mean. It's not fair to leave a child out.

He is a weird man! I am glad I am not the only one who thinks it would be unkind not to include the child.

Poor little love! But her a present no matter how cheap!

He's being thoughtless.

I always take a few extra presents for random kids visiting when i go see the nieces. If no friends are there then the nieces get a few extras. My OH would never even think of this. That is why i am miss popular (i also make them all pancakes for tea when i visit).

... another one saying buy a little present for this child, it will mean a lot to her not to be left out. :)

He's mean. your lovely.

You can't leave the poor kid out. A colouring book won't break the bank.

who's related to who means bugger all. We always had an extra "aunt" as a kid. She always got us a selection box. We were nothing to do with her really. She just wanted to get us something.

She's a child! Yes, buy her something, it doesn't really matter what. Sounds as if your DH, with the best will in the world, has forgotten what it's like to be that age.

Oh you absolutely should. At 5 she isn't going to understand why she isn't getting a present and its so exciting at that age. Very thoughtful of you to think about her

Just do it. Why would you even run it by him ?

That read as if we weren't very appreciative. We were. She became included

I don't remember what other got but I remember the selection boxes cos parents didn't like us having sweets

point is, it's Xmas there's always room for a tag along and it shouldn't matter who's relative and who isn't. It's the memory of the whole thing that matters

He's mean, you should buy it.

He's a big meanie!

At that age a £1 pice of tat will be a joyfully received as something costing £100s.

Buy it :)

Poundland will serve you well and she'll love the gesture.

I have little GC who just turned six, and the thought of them being left out at present giving time makes me cry. That's just cruel. They were here today, little boy and girl twins, bouncy and excited about Christmas. Who would do that to little kids?