aibu or him? can see both sides....

[LostMyBaubles]

Would like some views on this please.

Dh has had a few days off and my family have needed me so rather than taking 3dc with me (all under 5 and 1 has sn, autistic etc) I left them with him. He had another day off today and again family needed me so I said he can have the kids for a few hours while I help family.
I did take kids with me to mums house sk he could have a lie in and rest this morning. He had a good 5hours to himself. Ive not had 5 hours to myself in a very long time. So he said ive not had the day off to look after kids
My reply was ive never had day off and I do nights too. Ds with sn still wakes up screaming at night and has health issues so is usually up 3/7 nights a week. He doesn't get up to do anything.

Ds3 is now up every 2 hours a night for a feed again.
I can see he wanted to relax which is why I took kids ti mums but still wasnt enough? ?

Close member of family is disabled so tbeg need extra help doing things some days

I dont normally post on aibu but would like some views. Thanks

He wants to go out tomorrow and take the car. Wouldnt mind but ds1 has a lot of health problems and is in hosp a lot and he wants to stay with a mate a few nigjt which im not happy about if I need the car to takeds to hosp or dr then wwhat?

He is planning to leave you alone with his 3 children, to go and see his friend, today, on Christmas Day, and is planning on staying away for a few days?

I'd probably let him go but tell him to take all his crap with him because he wasn't coming back. Why do you want to be with him?

He has a few days off work. To spend time with his family over Christmas. You don't get time off from being a father! Not that it sounds like he is much of a father.

The most worrying bit of your post really OP is you saying you can see his side. Noone else here can.

Sorry pressed post too soon. I wanted to add I hope that you have a good day with your children either way OP, I don't know if you celebrate. I'd suggest posting in relationships or getting this thread moved.

I would let him go. Minus the car.