to think its rude to put "to sibling & family" on close family cards?

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I'm talking in-laws here, if you know their name, their spouses name and their kids names, you put all of them on, like "To John, Sandra, Gary and Jane" not just "To John & Family"

Its not something my family has ever done.. its something in our books that you do on cards for colleagues or friends who you know but don't personally know their partners or kids...etc, its an acquaintance thing... you certainly don't relegate your family members spouse of 10yrs+ and their children to 'and family'

Is it just me? Or does anyone else think its rude, and would you feel slighted if you received a card from your family or your in-laws that was addressed like that?

We received one from MIL like that this year. Unfortunately I think it is a sign of her age and advancing Alzheimers rather than a deliberate slight. You can also see that her handwriting is much less steady than it was even in last year's card. Quite frankly I'm really pleased for dh that she managed to send a card at all, I suspect that it might be the last one she sends as she is in her mid 80s and going downhill rapidly, both mentally and physically.

From FIL and step mil on the otherhand - sent I suspect by step mil and signed just 'Barry and Joan' (not their real names!) which I reckon was a deliberate snub by step mil - but there again I've only met her 3 times in over 20 years so it's not really surprising! If fil sends the cards (sometimes happens) then it is usually signed Dad and Joan.

I don't even write Xmas cards, now that is rude!

If they are relatives, or close friends, I think you should write all of the names. I have 3 siblings and am a bit offended to be considered "and family" on Christmas cards from people who know us all well. Perhaps I´m a bit oversensitive, but I think if people can´t take an extra couple of seconds to write a card properly, why bother?

When I write cards to colleagues whose families I perhaps have met but don´t know well I address it to the colleague only then write a message like "Have a wonderful Christmas with your family".

Another thread giving a fuck about how Christmas cards are written. Has everyone gone nuts?

I have amused myself no end this year by addressing people as "Rt. Honorable", "HRH", "His Eminence" and "Their Ladyships".

I also choose a title from the options you get online shopping, so I get a parcel addressed to "Sir LuisSuarezTeeth". Massively muddling for the postie as I am actually a laydee.

How many people have I massively offended?

FIL and step mil on the otherhand - sent I suspect by step mil and signed just 'Barry and Joan' (not their real names!) which I reckon was a deliberate snub by step mil - but there again I've only met her 3 times in over 20 years

My goodness you're really working hard at being offended.

We received one this year from a cousin of mine to Mr Boo firstname, Mrs Boo firstname and family. We have no DCs living with us. I do have a DSS but I don't think the cousin knows this (not close) so I think they were covering the bases just in case we'd procreated since last Christmas!!

My mother sends card to "Amber and Husband and children". Apparently bothering to remember her own grandchildrens' names is too much effort... Thankfully she does it to my sister as well, so at least there is no favouritism!

After several glasses of wine (between two of us) during the card writing marathon, my family and friends were lucky they got a matching card and envelope with a stamp on! Seriously its a problem. I think we signed a few 'and family' as thinking of all the childrens and pets names when you written x many cards.

I write on the envelope who the card is for, but inside I sign it from janethegirl and dh's name. However I may address the envelope as either mr &mrs surname, or surname family or Joan and Bert and family depending on how I'm feeling.

Sending cards will surely die out - i think we are the last generation to bother. I just can't see the point in a piece of paper with To Nigellas and Girls written in it and the sender's name with no personal message.

I think I'll just sign all my cards with 'From Falling' next year, as how you refer to the people you're sending them to seems to be an absolute minefield.

This is why I don't send any Christmas cards.

xmas cards are way going out of fashion - surely/

all of them go in the bin here but Wobbly - even less of a point to your pre printed ones, like sending a compliments slip

Totally agree with you OP.