wibu to complain to sainsburys?

[Smoolett]

I feel like I may have potentially cost someone their job and feel shit.
Me and my dd 10 months pop in to sainsburys fairly regularly. There is a woman who works on the tills who has been pretty over familiar with her the last few times we've been in ie tickling her and touching her. I'm sure there is nothing sinister or untoward but today she was trying to get a cuddle.
When I got home I sent a carefully worded email but I'm so worried now that this lady will get in trouble when I just don't want to be put on this position again.
Wibu?

[saintlyjimjams]

You cannot guarantee that this person is as clean as you are and even just touching the baby's hand once can give her worms or other unwanted bugs

If you seriously think like this you need help for health anxiety. Seriously.

[emeline]

Very very sad thread. Friendly woman being nice to a baby gets complained about behind her back.



Dysfunctional attitude, OP.

[Camolips]

Blimey Est, you've taken this thread to a whole new level

[GraysAnalogy]

Other posters should think about things like "how do I know she is washing her hands after using the loo?" or "does she have any illnesses that might be dangerous to my child?"

This sort of thinking isn't helpful at all.

[youareallbonkers]

You have a massively over inflated opinion of yourself if you think Sainsbury's would fire someone because you sent an email. You could easily have avoided her till if you chose to, you didn't so I can only assume you wanted to cause trouble. Best you leave the child in the house for ever from now on so no one even looks at her.

Some people...

[youareallbonkers]

Well it was a woman that's all, nothing wrong with her wanting to hug a baby, I wouldn't have worried, not about a woman. You really over-reacted OP!. Hope she doesn't lose her job, if she does, you only have yourself to blame.

So you'd worry if it was a man? Nasty!

[youareallbonkers]

Other posters should think about things like "how do I know she is washing her hands after using the loo?" or "does she have any illnesses that might be dangerous to my child?"

What are you going to do about germs in the air or on things these disease ridden soap dodgers have touched? Other children are far grubbier IMO and germs are good for children

[Camolips]

Also this filthy, worm-ridden woman has probably touched stock on the shelves so those germs are festering in your cupboards right now! Eek!

[Thurlow]

I know people aren't always confrontational and don't like to make a scene, but...

Someone touching a small baby isn't that unusual or that weird. As PP have said, a lot of people enjoy their babies being cooed over.

If you don't enjoy your baby being touched by strangers, then learn to say it. Seriously. This applies to other things in life too. You need to learn to smile and say "thank you, but I'd rather you didn't pick her up" etc.

You don't go and email a company and potentially get someone a warning on their record or a new store policy than no children are to be interacted with at any point.

[Gruntfuttock]

My goodness, this filthy germ-ridden, worm-infested woman was breathing near the OP's child! She might've already passed on some deadly disease! It doesn't bear thinking about. I hope that this isn't the beginning of the end. Suppose she had the plague! We're all doomed. Doomed I tell ye!

[Gruntfuttock]

My daughter works in the bakery in Sainsburys. She's as soppy about babies as I am and loves it if a baby smiles at her. I hope that someone doesn't complain to Head Office because a mother caught her smiling at her baby. Considering the number of times I've been given filthy looks by mothers, purely for smiling at a baby, it actually could happen. There are, after all, some very funny people about.

[Mrsfrumble]

Agree with whoever upthread described the OP's actions as cowardice. If you don't want the woman to touch your child, fair enough, but have the backbone and decency to say so to her face.

[DisneyDivaWoo]

I can't believe how many people are having a go at the Op. Don't touch other people's kids....it's that simple.

[NancyRaygun]

What a ludicrous and strange reaction to someone tickling your baby. How truly sad that the OP was even bothered by this. I think and I hope Sainsbury's will just think you are a complete loon and delete your email OP.

[UterusUterusGhali]

Urgh.

Never ever EVER go to Italy, Op. Like, ever.

You should have said something at the time to her face. Only I suspect you wouldn't, because it would sound fucking ridiculous out loud, wouldn't it?

[neme]

I doubt the woman will be disciplined for it. They will probably just be told a customer with issues has complained and to ignore them in future.

[Mrsfrumble]

But it's not that simple, is it DisneyDivaWoo, because loads of people don't mind strangers touching their children. See many of the above posts saying so!

My problem with the OP isn't that she objected to her child being touched, it's that she complained to the woman's employers who a simple "please don't touch her" would have done the job. If it bothered the OP that much she should have had the guts to say something at the time.

[Purplepoodle]

The whole point is if you don't like what someone is doing just politely tell them. You don't have to be very very rude as posters have suggested just firm and polite. This is going to happen to you again as people love babies and you will have to learn how to deal with it. You won't be able to email strangers in the park or on the bus or in the shopping centre if they want to fuss your child. Btw my dc1 used to lock the floor when he stared crawling so a whole new set of germs await u in the crawling/cruising months

[Gruntfuttock]

"This is going to happen to you again as people love babies and you will have to learn how to deal with it. You won't be able to email strangers in the park or on the bus or in the shopping centre if they want to fuss your child. "

She'll probably call the police.

[DisneyDivaWoo]

I'd probably say "please don't touch my children" not email though

[notauniquename]

I can't understand the amount of people that find it unreasonable for you to complain.
The cashier clearly has issues respecting people's boundaries.
It's a problem for the store if a cashier is making customers feel uncomfortable.

Rephrase the question to:
Is it reasonable for a stranger to hug kids in the street?

Why would a supermarket be any different?

[Gruntfuttock]

Why email head office though? Why not speak to the person in question directly?

[monkeytroubles]

OP, you say you didn't identify the woman in your email...in that case what was the point? If they don't know which employee you're complaining about then what do you expect them to do?