wibu to complain to sainsburys?

[Smoolett]

I feel like I may have potentially cost someone their job and feel shit.
Me and my dd 10 months pop in to sainsburys fairly regularly. There is a woman who works on the tills who has been pretty over familiar with her the last few times we've been in ie tickling her and touching her. I'm sure there is nothing sinister or untoward but today she was trying to get a cuddle.
When I got home I sent a carefully worded email but I'm so worried now that this lady will get in trouble when I just don't want to be put on this position again.
Wibu?

[Tinks42]

YABU in my world, obviously not in your own. You sent an Email about this? goodness gracious.

[Trills]

Do people not think that "don't touch strangers without permission" shouldn't be a general rule that everyone should know to follow?

[Trills]

Lots of negatives there.

It's not OK to touch strangers without permission.

This applies whether they are 10 months or 10 years or 50.

If this shop assistant is touching people who don't want to be touched, when she should be doing her job, she should be told to stop it.

[SantasBassoon]

Thank god for email, or all of these complaints to supermarket managers would have to be spoken out loud and make the complainers look like complete tools for not sorting out their own problems in a sensible way .

[Evabeaversprotege]

What age is your dd?

I think you went completely ott.

Like, totally ott.

[oswellkettleblack]

YABU

[WeeFreeKings]

What I think is sad in all this is that the staff member probably thinks she's being friendly and because you're too British to be honest with her to her face you send a complaint via email which doesn't allow an apology from the staff member face to face to clear up the misunderstanding. Every time you'll go in now it'll be awkward avoiding her whereas if you sucked up one awkward face to face 'she doesn't / I don't like that please don't do it' you could have both continued without long term awkwardness. We're all so bloody British not being honest to people that it ends up worse than if we had.

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

I also work for Sainsburys, she probably wont lose her job, but she will be spoken too.

But you could have just told her to stop it, if she didnt then complain at Customer Services.

[SunnaClausIsComingToTown]

Mad. Why not just say she doesn't like it?

How can you go back there now after sending that email?

[fascicle]

Not unreasonable to object, but unreasonable not to communicate your preference to the woman first, rather than saying/doing nothing at the time then sending an e-mail.

[TheFairyCaravan]

YABU!

I can't believe the things some folk get worked up over!

[Tinks42]

Bloody hell Trill, how extreme. So is this poster to Email about someone that tickles a ruddy baby.

[SoleSource]

Learn to voice your needs.

[SoleSource]

I agree with Trills.

[Tinks42]

This is how things start. Some person at the other end will now send a directive to all staff to not interact with others in the store due to one precious person. Ridiculous. I cuddle the kids all the time where I work, I also kiss them I obviously need to be put behind bars

[SoleSource]

Slaps Tanks arse.

[Tinks42]

Tinks quite likes it

[SoleSource]

Fondles Tanks breasticles, yummy

[SoleSource]

Lol @ Tanks

[adsy]

You know, when I'm having a shit day nothing cheers me up more than random people thinking my baby is so gorgeous that they want to cuddle him/ stroke him / talk to him.
Due to your horrible reaction it's now likely that an edict will go round Sainsburys telling staff not to interact with babies / children.
Cheers for that.

[londonrach]

Yabvvvvu. That poor woman. I feel sorry for you op. A quiet word to her at the time if you dont like it. Why send an email. I hope sainsburys like others have mentioned dont take this any further than a quiet word. Op will soon know if that lady is never in the shop again. Lovely start to xmas for this lady.

[CombineBananaFister]

YANBU to not want people to touch/fuss your child for many reasons (personally I'd be grateful for the distraction while I negogiate the hell that is self-serve)

YABU to complain about it if you haven't had the balls to say it first even if it is a bit cringey/confrontational for you ( I sympathize, unlike others on here I too am very 'British' and would've felt awkward )

[Tinks42]

How dare you "Sale"

[ArthurSHappeyChristmas]

I had a little old lady kissing my DS's chubby fingers and I'm serious I was angry, I felt like ripping her head off. Thankfully this was all in my head. I was a new, protective mum who had all kinds of stuff going through her head.

In reality I smiled at the old lady, agreed with her that he was beautiful etc... And moved on.

A simple, please don't touch him/her should do if she perseveres and/or you have to see her regularly. But to complain about her is very ott!

[AgentProvocateur]

That poor woman. She'll no doubt feel shit over Christmas once she's been "spoken to".

Huge (and very odd) overreaction on your part, OP. Sort out your own issues before making trouble for others.