To be miffed that he won't stop somewhere on the way home?

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Ok I admit it, I am VERY grumpy today. I worked a night shift last night after being up from a stupid hour of the morning after agreeing to deal with ds overnight so I could have a lie-in in preparation for my night shift, then OH deciding to agree to an SOS to go into work (he could have refused quite easily) I also haven't slept very well today, woke after 4 hours full of snot, unable to breathe and haven't been able to get back to sleep. I am not relishing the thought of my night shift tonight!!!!!

Now, OH is on his way home and has a 1 1/2 hour car journey home with 2 kids in tow. I've asked him to stop at some kind of food establishment on the way as I'm feel too rough to cook. I haven't asked him to detour, it's on the road he has to drive along to get home and he has said no, I need to cook as he wants to get home. It's a drive-thru ffs.

I think I may still be annoyed about yesterday's shennanigans. I was up continually throughout the night with ds, got made to get out of bed as OH decided to go into work, spent all afternoon getting the car MOT'd (having to try my hand at mechanics as a repair was needed to get through re-test....IT PASSED!) ds asked for a bath at 4.30pm but OH wanted to sit down as he hasn't 'for days' so I asked OH to cook so I ate properly before work, I got a fucking ready meal.

AIBU to expect him to just stop at the drive-thru and take 10 minutes out of his schedule so I can try and relax ready for work? Or am I being a lazy mardy arse that should just get off my backside and cook?

Oh and me cooking would involve me having to do all the washing up that he didn't bother to do last night whilst I was working my arse off (I am an A&E nurse and last night was HORRENDOUS!!)

Not unreasonable. I took DS to a drive thru today because I couldn't be arsed to organise lunch. I'm not even ill.

Bollocks to that. Your day is his night, you need to sleep. Suggest prodding him awake every hour or ringing him "oh is it 3am? Sorry haven't sat down all night"
I'm a shift worker, you need rest

Text him back. "Can't cook, no clean pots and pans. I've eaten. Dinner your problem"

Say you had to head out to work early, be gone when he comes in, go eat in a nice restaurant. He can wash up and cook for the kids and himself.

He can't be driving standing up...

I LOVE the restaurant idea!

My OH did similar to me. I was 15 weeks pregnant,working nights (ortho nurse) and he decided to do extra shifts at work during my week of nights so I'd get home at 0830, have an hour's sleep then look after 2yo all day until 4pm when he got home, grab 2hours sleep and go to work. He wouldn't wash the pots either.

We lived on takeout that week after I burnt oven chips and cried for 45mins on the kitchen flood.

Lol at PlanetCodeine!

He needs to have a word with himself about whose needs come first. He's sounding remarkably selfish at the moment.

All hell is breaking out in the average A&E at the moment, so he is being vvvvvvvv unreasonable.

My mother had cereal, popcorn, or "help yourself night" for occasions such as these. The kids will be fine without a cooked meal if they're old enough to eat drive through in the car.