For the past few years my siblings and I have only done gifts for the kids, our parents and for any sibling who doesn't have kids. But we have cut out each other as it was getting expensive, difficult and a little bit grabby.
I've just found out (inadvertently) that my DB & SIL have bought everyone gifts this year.
Further background Is that it was this particular SIL who instigated the kids only rule.
I have no time Togo shopping, no clue what I would get them anyway and no money budgeted for this.
I always give a token gift of homemade eatables anyway.
I feel a little mean.
I could take the view that if I hadn't known in advance I wouldn't have the chance to reciprocate.