In fact I know I'm not (MIL/ Presents)

[Stoneysilence]

But am probably being grabby/ entitled/ call it what you will.

DD (nearly 2yo) is the 5th grandchild and the furthest geographically-speaking from where MIL lives. This Christmas, MIL has already left the country to spend Christmas with SIL and her two DS where they live in another country.

Doing my last minute shopping just now it's suddenly occurred to me (like a smack in the face) that MIL hasn't left anything for DD for Christmas. Not even a fiver for DH and/or I to get her a stocking filler with.

Oversight? Perhaps. But I'm pretty sure SIL2 and her brood (who live very close to MIL and are in her every waking thought) will be well provided for, if last Xmas is anything to go by, when SIL2's kids had literally present mountains, whereas DD had one tiny 'fun' gift "because she doesn't really know it's Christmas does she" (DD was 11mo at the time, so fair enough, but still, ooh burn).

Thoughts? And how to approach this with DH who's very protective of MIL?

For the record op, Yanbu, I hope she has got your dd something for Christmas. If she hasent you need to address it with your DH and see how you are going to approach it.

Thanks all - definitely agree honesty and open communication in the family is the best policy. Must psych myself up for that, though - not great with confrontation when it's loved ones.

So when the GC who now get mountains of presents were babies, did they get nothing? I rather doubt it.

Do you need to 'approach' Dh? Will he realise for himself if there is no present for your dd from his mum? If you think it won't register with him you could always start a list on Christmas day 'so you remember who to send thank yous to' as a subtle way of raising the subject. You don't even have to point out that she isn't on the list, just say to dd cheerily that Granny will probably bring something after her holiday. If that doesn't get him thinking nothing will.
I don't think you should get something and say it's from her as your dd isn't going to realise she hasn't got anything from any particular person and you will make it too easy for your dh to pretend there is no problem. If it happens again next year you will be seething by then!