To be sad (and a bit irritated) that my night out has been cancelled?

[CruCru]

I was meant to be meeting a group of friends tonight (long arranged night out, suggested by one of them). I put it in the calendar and made the point that DH has to be home tonight.

Today they've all dropped out one by one. The remaining one or two have said that they want to reschedule to a time that everyone can make (which realistically is never).

I'm all dressed up, ready to go out and now feel like a Billy no mates.

I'd b rather pissed off!
That use to happen to me whenever something was planned. I found spontaneous nights out always went loads better. (No such luck now I have 4kids n preggy with no.5! )

That's awful. YANBU.

YANBU. Well, unless they're all ill.

Can you not contact the two that could still make it and see if they want to do something different tonight? Or try some other friends or get a babysitter and go out with DH?

I hate this too it happened to me not long ago so I ended up ringing my mam and we went out a got pissed.
I would rather people say no I dont fancy it rather that waiting for the night it happens and using a petty excuse. Its horrible I felt like crying especially as everybody talked about it for weeks the bastards.

I know that there are worse things in this world but I don't get to go out with friends as often as I'd like and DH is going out three times this week.

It's a bit late to get a babysitter. Also DH is hungover and won't want another night out. I tried my brother but he (being young and childless) has plans tonight (fair enough).

Is there anyway you can redeem the evenjng?

Invite another friend out?

Go to the cinema on your own and enjoy not having to do three toilet trips on the way out and having a running commentary through the film?

That really annoys me and I've not even got children to care for yet!

Also when you're meeting at 6pm at somewhere and you're the only one there -no one else until after 7pm despite telling you they're "on the way".

DH has suggested I join him for his work night out tomorrow so I've put in for a babysitter.

that would annoy me to! especially as I've also been let down. If you're near me let's go get some wine

hooray for your DH

YANBU! But I can better it! We had a reunion lined up (few years back)-all heading back to home own for a weekend of catching up. Had to rearrange OH work etc to able me to go. In the week leading up to it everyone dropped out! In the end I though-stuff it-I'm going anyway-and dragged my DCs on a weekend trip down memory lane!

Hmm. There are now pictures (from today) on FB of the friends who cancelled in December at the place we were going to meet up in. They've had a load of wine and look like they're having a marvellous time.

I am sad. Why didn't they ask me?

Sorry for the self pity. I can't really mention it to many people in real life with either sounding like a whinger or making it into a big deal.

Sorry to hear that - it's a horrible thing to do and sounds really hurtful! I think you'd be perfectly justified in mentioning it and asking what was going on.

That doesn't make you a whinger in my book - it IS a big deal!

Crucru, time to find better friends. x

YANBU and the Facebook thing is bloody horrible

Being a forthright kind of person I would comment on their posts/pictures asking why I was, effectively, lied to.

And call them wankers. Definitely call them wankers.

Thanks all, am much more cheerful today. Think part of it was that DH was out last night and the night before so I was watching old episodes of Silent Witness.

YANBU. What dickheads. Have you contacted them about the Facebook entry?

Wow. So they cancelled on you then didn't bother to invite you when they rescheduled? Have you asked them what was up?

No, I think I'm going to let this bunch go. We had a lot of fun when we all worked together but I hardly ever see them now. I have lots of other friends I am close to.