about this Christmas card?

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This is concerning DS (9) and three other friends. Backstory:

DS has always been good friends with them all, but one of them, let's call him Martin, got a bit possessive with Joe and fell out with ds and Fiona about it (didn't like the fact that Joe was friends with ds and Fiona).

Recently, Martin went to Joe's house and they both got into making potions. It later transpired, that Martin was making a potion with the intent of putting it in Fiona's water bottle at school. He had pissed into the potion as well as mashing up some poisonous berries in there (from Martin's garden, whose mum had warned them not to go near).

Now Martin has sent a christmas card to Joe with the following message:

"I wish you a very Merry Christmas. May it bring you joy, happiness and everything else you deserve especially to assassinate DS and mostly Fiona."

He has drawn a picture of a sword dripping with blood with the caption "Fiona's and Ds' blood".

I'm finding this unacceptable. AIBU to want to talk to the school or his parents about it?

I hope you sepak to the school quickly. Hopefully they can take some action before the Christmas break.

Gosh whois that is an exact description of Martin. He is VERY charming, but chillingly so. I can't believe that kid is allowed to go to your friend's school.

I spoke to the deputy and she has assured me that they are on to it. They will speak to DS, Fiona, Jo and Martin tomorrow (separately) to gather more information. She has spoken to the head and is alerting all staff to be on the look out. She did mention it's a little tricky as most of the incidents have occurred outside of school and they have not been aware of any problems with Martin themselves. She will ask to speak his parents tomorrow and suggest CAHMS. They will also offer mentor support

I think you guys need to calm down here. Children live in a fantasy world and while I would speak to the teacher, this isn't that unusually at all at primary age. I have taught primary for years and fantasies about 'killing people' isn't that unusual. I agree, it's not nice. But those of you who mooted calling the police or that this boy is troubled / disturbed are way off.

You might just mention that it is a safeguarding issue that they ensure that no incidents occur "secretly" in school.

Never speak to the parents. Even if the parents are good, there is little they can do - they may well need help and support, and the school is better placed to do this.

Have to for the most part alot of boya can act 'oddly' through seeing things rhey are too young to comprehend, movies, games etc.
However I do believe once in a while you do get a psycho, whether as a product of their environment or a chemical imbalance. Had one such boy in my class throughout primary and secondary. He could be nice but I saw first hand him attack a girl with a hammer, set a boy alight. He killed cats and is now in prison indefinitely for murder. All before the age of 19. Really chilling.

It is bad, the potion could have made someone ill. I would contact the deputy head.

I disagree GingerbreadPudding. I know he is just a child but something just isn't right about his behaviour. I speak to a lot of mums and I know a lot of children but have not come across something like this before. Yes, you get fallouts, and DS has come home before complaining that someone scratched him, or called him a name, or spread a false rumour about him...but it's all pretty innocent stuff and normal playground banter and I don't get involved. This is different.

This is incredibly worrying behaviour from their age group. I would be seriously considering contacting SS/Police. The child sounds like he possibly needs to be assessed.

Having said that, it might just be an over-active imagination, it might be nothing at all and he might turn out to be the gentlest person on earth (ahem, doubtful actually!) but I would be pretty negligent to not react to this.

TheMuppetsSingChristmas the deputy also advised us not to speak to the parents directly. I have also told DS to stay away from him. I obviously haven't told him about the card but just said that Martin has anger issues and to just be civil to him but keep away until he's sorted them out.

I think you have done the right thing. I just hope the school take it seriously.