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to think its rude to set your alarms if your not going to get up?

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AlwaysLurking38 · 17/12/2014 08:20

Every single day ( apart from weekends ) someone I live with sets their alarms at 7:00am and they go off constantly till 7:45am till they get up!!! Why do it? If your not getting up till 7:45, fair enough set them at 7:30 l. But 45 minutes of alarms constantly going off?

It makes me so so angry. I think its incredibly rude and selfish!!! Why do it?

Rude gits!

OP posts:
skylark2 · 17/12/2014 09:15

I don't get why anyone puts up with this.

When the alarm goes off the first time, wake them up. Properly. Remove duvet and use cold sponge if necessary.

If this isn't essential, then the alarm wasn't essential either. Nobody needs to "wake up slowly" to the extent of stopping everyone else sleeping for an hour. It wouldn't be considered reasonable for a DH or DP to make your life miserable for an hour a day by shouting at you - why is it acceptable when they use an alarm clock?

JingleBellSniffer · 17/12/2014 09:18

Dp does this when he has to be up (weekends mainly, works evenings on weekdays) I don't mind it as I'm up at 8am without fail every day anyway. it's so he can wake up nicely. Say he has to be up at 9am, he will set it for 8:15, be half asleep and set it on a 15 min snooze, then 8:30, he will be pretty much still zombie, 8:45 he's awake, 9am he's up and about.
I'm the first one awake and I have to jump out of bed or else I'll be late. One alarm, but DP needs to wake up slowly or he can't function.
If the circumstances were different, I still wouldn't mind, I sleep through DP's alarm. he can say I woke up when it went off but I don't remember. His alarm's shit and not annoying so I don't care.

bilbodog · 17/12/2014 09:20

I used to flat share about 30 years ago (I am very old now) and one of my flat mates used to do this - drove me crazy and I used to end up storming into her room and throwing the alarm clock at her to get up..... I still hate her now...............................

Number3cometome · 17/12/2014 09:26

I have to admit this was absolutely me a few months back!

I would set an alarm for 4:55am, then another 5:05am then another for 5:15am so literally sounds like alarms constantly going off (what with snooze and all that)

My OH gets up about an hour later than my final alarm in the morning and would be really grumpy.

He eventually said to me that my alarms were driving him to be really grumpy and that could I try setting one alarm. I said I do it because I am really tired at that early morning alarm, but also don't want to fall back to sleep and not get up. So the first few days I set one alarm, and he then nudged me out of bed if the snooze went off.

This has absolutely worked, he is much happier and now I only need to rely on one alarm!!

To be honest I used to do my own head in with it, but I worried I wouldn't get up.

Just speak to him gently about it, say it is upsetting you and that you are a much nicer person when not woken up 14,000 times in the morning Grin

kali110 · 17/12/2014 09:29

I do it.so does my dp. So do the people i know.i set my alarm about 30 minutes maybe a bit longer before i have to actually get up.

Mammanat222 · 17/12/2014 09:32

My OH was a "snoozer" and it drove me mad.

He even did it when he had really early starts so I would be wide awake an hour (or more) before I needed to be up and often DS was woken too.

I made him sleep on sofa down to this issue a few times - oddly enough he gets up much more easily these days Grin

Theoretician · 17/12/2014 09:36

Waking up can be unpleasant so why prolong/repeat the process? Set the alarm for the latest sensible time, leap out of bed immediately it goes off, suffering over in 30 seconds.

OddBoots · 17/12/2014 09:39

I've heard of single people doing this but it didn't occur to me that they would still do it when there is another person in the room to be subjected to it.

BiscuitsofYum · 17/12/2014 09:40

I always thought it was just my dp that did this... 45 mins with an alarm normally going off every 15 mins.. But he wont switch them off so they'll go off every 5 mins... Yet he can sleep through anything!! His excuse is 'what if I want to get up earlier'.. He never does.... And I'm one of those who wakes with a slight noise and then cant get comfy enough to go back to sleep especially being 40+1!

KarenHillavoidJimmyswarehouse · 17/12/2014 10:24

Theoretician
Waking up can be unpleasant so why prolong/repeat the process? Set the alarm for the latest sensible time, leap out of bed immediately it goes off, suffering over in 30 seconds

Because it's nice to hear the alarm go off, wake up then hunker down for a nice snuggle together before the real alarm goes off.

Chwaraeteg · 17/12/2014 10:32

Yanbu. My boyfriend used to do this. Sometimes the alarm would go off 5 or 6 blooming times before he got his area out of bed. Especially irritating if the baby has had a bad night and we are finally managing to get some sleep!

Selfish! We had a blazing row about it once and thankfully that seems to have put an end to it.

When I poked him and told him to stop snoring twice the other night though he spent the next day going on about how it was 'torture' to wake someone repeatedly and how it's one of the techniques us forces used on prisoners at Guantanamo!

How I wish we had separate beds!

Lj8893 · 17/12/2014 10:38

My dp used to do this, drove me absolutely mad!!!
i give him a lift to work now so i set one alarm and wake him up so it doesn't happen anymore, im sure it will start again once the lift situation changes though.

frankie001 · 17/12/2014 10:56

To make sure I get up I have my phone alarm by the bed, and my tablet alarm in the living room!

RiverTam · 17/12/2014 11:02

I used to do this - but I lived alone at the time! I would chuck him out to the spare room/sofa, it's extremely inconsiderate when you're sharing a room with someone how does this.

Also, are you saying your 'D'P stalks you on MN? I'd be very alarmed if that was the case and would suggest you have bigger problems than an alarm clock!

D0oinMeCleanin · 17/12/2014 11:10

I do this. Mornings are not my forte.

I have three separate alarm apps. Each one has five alarms going off between 6:30am and 7am.

There are times when I sleep through all 15 of them.

If I didn't have them all set there's no way we'd ever wake on time.

Going to bed earlier, sadly, is not an option. I work evenings, although on the odd occasion I do go to bed earlier it makes little difference. My body seems to be "set" to not fall asleep before midnight. Handy when I'm at work, not so handy when I'm shattered, have a night off and just want an early night.

I'd love to be able to just set one alarm and know that it will wake me up.

Summer is not so bad. I seem to manage to wake up easier when it's light out.

D0oinMeCleanin · 17/12/2014 11:14

Oh and 2 of my alarms have puzzles you need to complete before they'll stfu. I am more than capable of getting out of bed, wandering to the other side of the room, switching off an alarm and getting back into bed without ever waking up fully enough to realise that I'm awake and the alarm is going off much less that it's 8am and if we don't get up now, we'll be late for school.

RiverTam · 17/12/2014 12:26

is it just you in the room, though, D0oin?

Idontseeanysontarans · 17/12/2014 12:32

Me and DH do this. It's just so we can turn the first alarm off with the knowledge we have an extra 20 minutes in bed Smile
Dooin how do you not put an alarm with a puzzle on it straight through the window? That would drive me nuts! Grin

BiscuitsAreMyDownfall · 17/12/2014 12:38

We set the radio alarm for 6. We snooze for an hour listening to the radio, then we get up at 7 when the radio turns off unless we turn it back on again for 20 mins

Luckily we both find this way a good way to wake up so there are no arguments.

Smileybutstressed · 17/12/2014 12:40

I'm guilty of this :/. This morning I had to be at work for 7am. It's only a 10 min drive away. I like to be up at 6am so that I can get myself and DD up, dressed and fed. My first alarm goes off at 5:30. It goes off so early so that I can wake up properly lol.

It doesn't go off constantly though. Once at 5:30 and once at 6

CocobearSqueeze · 17/12/2014 12:40

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MrTumblesBavarianFanbase · 17/12/2014 12:43

If its just you who can hear the multiple alarms, or everyone who can hear it agrees it's a good idea, then obviously it's nobody else's business. Disturbing other people with multiple alarms spread over an hour (bed mate or house mate with thin walls) is incredibly self centred though. Especially when you know it annoys them or even deprives them of needed sleep because they are on a different schedule due to being the one who gets up with a baby, or different working hours etc.

OddBoots · 17/12/2014 12:46

Thinking about it I kind of do this, I have alarm that wakes me before I really need to be up, I get straight up and come downstairs and usually get straight on to putting the coffee and porridge on then another alarm goes off to say to wake the children, but sometimes I doze on the sofa before the second alarm as I know I have the time to do that. No-one else in the house can hear it though.

SoonToBeMrsB · 17/12/2014 12:50

My DP has his alarm go off every ten minutes for forty minutes and it makes me want to kill him. I'm one of these people who can just spring out of bed and I get that not everyone can do that but FORTY MINUTES Angry

He's a postman and pulling long shifts in the run up to Christmas so his alarm has been going off at 4.45am for the past week and a bit, but he has been told in no uncertain terms that he'll be living in his mother's shed if he tries his usual stunt at that time.

legocastle · 17/12/2014 13:00

I do this, the alarm remains set at the same time every morning (to make sure I don't forget to set it at night) and I get up at different times on different days, so sometimes get up after 30 mins, sometimes not until an hour later. Usually check email, weather, papers in bed on my phone to wake myself up, I have never been one to leap out of bed and need to ease myself out of it gently. I've generally lived alone for the past 15 years but I share a house/bed now with DH. He doesn't seem to mind too much, if he does then maybe it'll prompt him to get us a bigger house where I can have my own bedroom Grin.