AIBU to think I AM dressed warmly enough?

[SoonMeansNever]

Was going to write 'dressed properly' but I do hate a misleadingly enticing thread title...

DM has been haranguing me over the phone for "not dressing properly" ie she thinks I don't wear enough, as I commented that it was chilly today and was cold at DSis's house on a recent visit.
"Oh well of course you're never dressed properly" - actually I think I am, for a normal house!

I'm currently wearing slippers, cords, a cotton long vest, long sleeve cotton top, and a long cardi (cheap, not wool the horror ). Nothing is tucked in - another heinous crime according to DM don't get her started on artificial fibres or the dreadfulness of 3/4 length sleeves.
That's pretty standard issue indoor winter clothing IMO?

From the last Skype call, DM looks to be wearing her usual Winter garb of a million layers inc polo neck, gilet, fingerless gloves on indoors - only slightly less than most people wear outside.
Tbf she has Reynauds disease so does take more precautions against getting cold doesn't go as far as buying a decently insulated sensible house tho.

Both DM and DSis live in much bigger houses than me, v high ceilings, huge rooms and vast windows, in comparison we're in a 2bed Victorian terrace, small rooms, easy to heat!
When I visit I dress a bit more warmly and always have a scarf on, and yes, I even tuck my vest in...

AIBU to think I'm the one dressed properly normally, and she's the one dressed for the Arctic tundra in her own home?

Yabu.

How can you be dressed warmly enough if you feel the cold?

To be honest, you are wearing cotton, and goodness knows what hidden horrors are in your non-wool cardi (whats the point of that?)!

You British sometimes seem to forget you live on an island out in the middle of open waters, and you dont seem to realize how damp everything is here in winter. Why some of you insist on wearing cotton and man made fibres, like cashmillion WTF?? is beyong me.

Of course you are cold.
If you sweat even just a little bit wearing cotton, it gets moist. Moist cotton cools while it dries, on your body! It does not wick the sweat away and feel nice and warm like wool does. Layers of cotton? Bah humbug.

You need a nice merino vest, and you will never be cold again. Unless it is really cold and you insist on wearing non-wool cardies.

Am I channeling your mother now? (I worry that I am her)

Believe me, if she lived in the arctic, she would have a very insulated home, with triple glazing, underfloor heating throughout, and the temperature would be on a constant 22 degrees, minimum. People up there knows how to keep warm.

You're wearing more than me. I wore pretty much the same yesterday, but not a cardi as i was plenty warm enough without one. I have a warm coat and lots of woolly things to wrap myself in for outdoors, if it's particularly cold.

Not even wearing a vest, today - just a long sleeved top. It feels positively tropical after the past week's iciness.

I hate wool. Any type of wool. Apart from possibly super expensive cashmere which I have zero hope of ever owning. (Totally broke).

I do however absolutely rate and love the massive shaggy fleece zip up hoodies at sainsburys and wear one of those round the house. Not sure I'd wear it out but for sitting around its great. I have a severe underactive thyroid and pituitary problems and need to be warm!

I'm 45 and perimenopausal. I have a merino vest, which only comes out when it's -12 outside!

I even have lots of lovely handknit wool socks, which only come out when it's below freezing - and then often get kicked off in the evening because I'm too hot.

Curretly taking a break from steam cleaning and wishing that cotton was even more cooling than it is.

We were constantly told we'd 'catch a chill' (or 'our death of cold' or even 'double pneumonia'!) if we didn't wrap up warm. And you had to take off your coat indoors or you wouldn't 'feel the benefit' later.
We were also warned 'we'd get piles' if we sat on a cold stone or slab.

God i grew up in a chilly house all day because my mother wouldn't put the heating on. No money problems, no heating problems (father was a plumber and heating engineer) just .... wont put the bloody heating on problems!

I would say i'm cold mum, and she'd say put another layer on then. (however when my dad would get home from work the heating would go on).

Is it some kind of martyrdom?

I vowed to always keep a warm house when i grew up and never have my kids have to wear 2 jumpers to keep warm and i've stuck to that.

My mother is now widowed and enjoys the -10 bloomin degree temperature in her house in solitary splendour!

I have to dress the baby in extra layers when we are going to visit, and i wont go at all when my sinus' are playing up as the cold aggrivates them.

You need real wool/cashmere or a fleece.

Cotton or acrylic jumpers are put away til summer in my book.

I don't have a thyroid and suffer from the cold (and the heat when its warm) i am always on the hunt for warm clothes, but if i am still, like now, i start to get chilled. Having just started a new job, i am currently battling with what to wear. Had on a merino wool jumper yesterday with a long sleeved cotton-t-shirt underneath and was warm enough until late afternoon, then had to put on my cashmere cardigan, and was still rather chilly. Mind you, i was standing by the front door for a couple of hours.

You can get some nice wool and merino jumpers /cardis in the Gap 50% sale now though....

I'm a great believer in tucking in! And thermal vests and slippers.

i wear a hooded robe indoors this time of year, i cant stand my back/neck getting chilly and my house is an icebox.. i dont want to waste electric having the heating on all day!

i'm wearing socks, slippers, trousers, tunic, robe with hood up!

not a full length robe btw, its a short one, and its floofy, covers my butt.. great for sitting down in!

I understand what you mean OP - your mum's position is that if you feel cold, you're not dressed properly. My position is that we have heating, therefore one should not need to wear indoors the same clothes as outside. And if you really need 5 jumpers and gloves indoors, your house is too cold.

What's horrid about wearing loads of clothes indoors is you feel all trussed up and can hardly move. I like to dress lightly at home (hence just the T-shirt and stretch trousers) and I sleep with nothing on at all. Hate being bundled up!

Hazlenutt spot on!!

Quint Honestly, if she had that mythic house, she'd still have the thermostat at a max of 18deg, and keep the heating off as much as possible.
She likes the house to be cold, and her to be warm. I prefer the house to be warm, and not to have to truss myself up in a bazillion layers just to keep my circulation going...
I don't feel the cold at home because I dress perfectly adequately for my normal house, but it doesn't stop me noticing the fact that it's a cold day.
I'm currently in cheap non-wool jumpers as I'm a couple of sizes larger than I used to be with vast BFing boobs, so I'd rather not buy a whole new set of winter jumpers just for my temporary size. I've got lots of lovely woolly jumpers that I'll be back in next winter!

" I've got lots of lovely woolly jumpers that I'll be back in next winter!"

So if you know you're not wearing the warm clothes you consider normal for this time of year, why would you think you're dressed warmly enough?

You're cold while wearing lightweight summer clothing in winter. This means you're not dressed warmly enough. Whether it's practical for you to do anything about it is another question (do you have no woolly cardigans? Doesn't exactly matter if they won't do up.)

I dunno. Every time I feel cold and shiver for a prolonged period I do tend to actually catch a cold. I'm a scientist and theoretically this shouldn't be possible as a cold is a virus, but no-one has told my body that! I find the older I get the colder I get, and especially if I am sitting working, I feel the cold.

I wear a thermal top most days with a thick wool jumper and thick socks in the house.

Where I currently live it falls well below freezing during the night (and sometimes the day...) and we have absolutely no heating to speak of! I just crank up the air conditioning to normal room temperature and wear a coat everywhere but bed.

skylark as I've said already, I'm not cold...
I think I'm dressed warmly enough as I am warm enough - for my home.
I got a little bit cold at DSis's house as it's huge and minimally heated and we weren't very active, and would be wearing more at DM's as her house is fecking freezing unless you jog on the spot twirling flaming batons.
My cheap cardi is doing the job perfectly well here, tho I'll be glad to wear my old clothes when they fit again as they're better quality/not pilled, as well as being slightly warmer.

I think a lot of people overheat their homes unnecessarily. But that's not really the point of this thread.

OP, I think you're being a little bit U. If I were your mother I'd probably be telling you something similar - you felt the cold at your sister's house, so you should put more clothes on to go there. With your comment about it being chilly, well, if it was just an observation about the weather, fair enough. If it was a comment about you being chilly indoors, I'd have said the same as your mother.

The generational thing is interesting, though. I'm also a child of the 60s, ice on the windows etc. My big leap into the 21st century is to wear a fleece indoors instead of a cardi! But if I'm sitting still for any length of time I'll still muffle up in a blanket. Old habits die hard, and to be honest, I like the comforting feeling of muffling up and hunkering down.