This gives me the rage...

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

.. and I am already feeling cross today. One of DH's many cousins always, always send a Christmas card to us, writing in the card "To Avon's Husband, Avon & Kids" and then signs it from herself and her own children, using their names. This gives me that absolute stabby rage!! & Family makes me twitch, but & Kids sends me over the edge. They have frigging names, cousin lady, use them! First time it happened I thought she may have forgotten their names in the midst of all the cousins although she could always have asked someone, so I helpfully wrote all our names out in our card to her. But no, each year, without fail it's to "Avon's husband, Avon & Kids". Has become something of a joke now, however, it's not one I'm able to see the funny side of, hence my venting here. So, AIBU to feel all hot and bothered about this. only slightly lighthearted

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest, I have to say, but then I am not a fan of Christmas cards full stop. Writing them is a PITA for me, though I make myself do those that are really necessary.

Don't think I even really notice how other people sign theirs.

Ho hum, and I am probably a bah-humbug about them.

I want to do this with a friend as I can never remember how she spells Connor/Conor.

I play Christmas card bingo as no one spells my DCs names right either.

Hmm, but is it not a bit rude to imagine that one's own DC are worthy of being mentioned by name, but the recipients' aren't? Obviously I don't actually think my own DC are at the forefront, but if I really couldn't remember the names of the children of a family member, I think I'd go for a generic "To Joe and family" "From Avon and family". And, obviously it's very much a minor problem, I know that, but I can't be the only person in the history of forever to be intensely irritated by something minor. Can I
Wrong names on the card? I am liking that

happy Xmas and fuck off

That pretty much sums up my mood today.

It would appear IABU (a bit), with bits of reasonableness in it, too.

Aaarghh FFS that was supposed to be fuck off copied from a PP. I give up!

I'm with you on this Avon. Why bother at all if you can't do it properly.

People who don't write who the card is to inside. Lazy. They just write a pile of cards with "from Janet and Roy" inside and then address the envelope.
On my Christmas card list I write all the DC names next to the adults so I can remember them and spell them right (Jayne instead of Jane).

I have four children and BIL & SIL have three. My SIL has 12 cousins on her side. If we had to write all the children's names in all the christmas cards we send to all our family members plus our friends, we would be there for bloody ever!

This is literally a non issue! Get over it!

Jeez some days I can hardly remember my own kid's names, let alone other people's...

Chill out and eat a mince pie

I always put 'and kids' if there's more than two, and always sign cards from 'crazy, dh and kids'. I come from a big family where there are 10 aunts and uncles with 7+ kids per family, it would take forever to write them all assuming I could remember them all. I also have four dcs and lots of cards to send, it would take forever to write all the names on each one.

I can't get worked up over it tbh.

This is why I don't bother writing cards. Takes ages, wastes time and money and then you get lazy and people get upset. Just do the same back.

Ooh, I wonder if the big family thing makes a difference? I don't have siblings, neither does my DF, and my DM has 1 brother, whereas DH is one of 4 and his DM is one of 4, all of whom have had lots of DC.

I will take advice to try and chill out, but this is tricky for me. And I can still feel a mini rage...

They're Christmas cards guys! Just a nice friendly gesture and a nod to tradition. They're not some kind of legal document to be perused, analysed and found wanting. Just accept them in the spirit in which they were sent.

Just do the same back. At least it may help with the rage to know you've been equally not as bothered. Do you sign from the kids or from them individually? Just a thought if you did that might be why she does?

Just out of interest how insulted do people get when they don't receive a card? I don't have time to write any this year and the look I got from one friend was really unimpressed when I told her.

I don't have time to write any this year You choose what to do with your time MNing.
I don't mind if I don't get a card though. I have one or two friends who don't do cards and I still send them one. I send about 30 so not too onerous a task.

We don't do Christmas Cards. Anyone we want to wish Happy Christmas to, we will do in person when we see them or in a Christmas Day phone call.

We tend to just do cards for family/friends that we don't see that often/older people that would really appreciate one. Local friends, not so much - we wish each other Happy Christmas in person. The DC obviously do loads of school ones.
I feel the rage subsiding now only taken the 8 hours since I received the card , but as a "thing", it does piss me off.

Lol SecretSquirrels , if I could write while pressed up against a dubiously smelling man on the tube, I would. Mnetting is always good :)

I have done cards for the close relations and my parents friends who always give us one and really look forward to receiving but I'll be seeing all my friends so seems silly to stress over it. Can't help but remember 'the look' though!

If it makes you feel any better I was once referring to as 'and wife', that really pissed me off too :)

All these threads make me even happier that I no longer write cards at all. It also illustrates my reason - if people either a) don't know your kids' names or b)are too rushed to write them then what the fuck is the point if sending a card?
OP YABU to get worked up about it, but Indiscriminate Christmas card writers are also BVU.

Young DC love to see their own name written in a card so I always write out their names.
I can understand why you're annoyed OP. The only time it happens to us is when the sender quite probably doesn't know the names - old uni friends, parent's friends etc.

As a child, with a younger sister, it used to really upset me that the cards would be addressed to Mum name, Dad name and girls, then later, Mum name and girls. Would it really have been such hard work to write both our names?

YANBU!

Right, LegsOfSteel and MammaTJ, you have both just expressed what I have been bopping on about, perfectly. Thank you

Yes it's lazy. I sent one to a family with children's names as the card was to them too. One back has 'Annie, Joe & boys' in it. Not a big deal or worth more than an tiny inner tut but yanbu.

Still it's better than the one who never writes an 'and' between mine and DH's names and just puts their name at the bottom. So "Coumarin Bob" then "Mavis". Don't strain your wrist will you Mavis.

I can't get over the fact people get so worked up about things like this

Yabu....

I've done ....and Co this year.

It's saved me hours