To not trust my husband with my children's safety

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I have real anxiety issues about leaving my children generally. They are 10, 7 and 3. I don't trust my husband at all with them anymore as yesterday having been told a hundred times to not let our youngest near the road by herself, he did exactly that. My 7 year old told me as soon as soon as I met up with them that she nearly got run over and my husband shouted at her just before the car came. He is upset that it happened, but I just can't get over it. What would you do? I just feel that I can never leave my husband with them alone. (I was only shopping for 2 hours alone-a very rare experience!). Thank you

I think the op is being treated unfairly

I don't think so. She obviously sees herself as senior parent and he is the extra child who has to follow her instructions about her children.

Yanbu. Hands should be held near road etc. That's not anxiety it is common sense.

If you don't trust your husband you shouldn't have had children with him!

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I have been to the dr's regarding my anxiety and i'm waiting for counselling and have started on some tablets - so hopefully i'll stop worrying quite so much. I agree with lots of what has been said, especially being worried and overbearing and it rubbing off on my children.
My husband is loving towards the children but he is like an absent minded professor. He is very clever academically, but practically, pretty awful. Letting our 3 year old be by herself near a road is one of many incidents over the years (though the one that i'm finding the hardest to understand how anybody could do this). I'm far from perfect, but I would never let this happen. I understand accidents happen and that's why I wouldn't let a young child with no road sense go near a road by themselves.

Well done- glad you are doing something about it- hope all goes well.

Good luck with the waiting list. I've been on it since 2012 and still nothing stupid arsehole GP

ANYWAY I don't think YABU. You make absolute perfect sense to me. I love my dh more than I can say, he's a fun, loving, affectionate, careing, amazing father BUT I don't trust him even nearly as much as I trust myself with our chiIdren.