To cancel panto plans?

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DH thinks that I am being slightly unreasonable Bil thinks I am definitely am.

A few weeks ago Bil called up to say he had been given free tickets to the panto in Birmingham and could get some extra tickets for me, Dh and our 2 dd's we said that thanks that would be lovely, at no point was the time of the panto mentioned

DH spoke to Bil about some other stuff and bil mentioned the panto was an evening show but he wasn't sure of the time.

I checked out the times myself and it is a late showing of the panto and as it is over 2 hours we would not be able to get home until 11.30 at night, we would be travelling by train and the return train is at 10.30.

I told DH that this is too late for our children and that we will cancel, he got a bit huffy and said it would be rude to cancel after saying yes. I said though that if Bil had given us the information earlier we would never have accepted.

So DH called his brother today, who did not take it well at all,thinks we are being too strict on our kids etc etc.

I do feel bad for cancelling but think Bil should have given us details earlier and I think he should understand why I don't fancy having 2 kids out in Birmingham at that time and that they are going to be fairly grumpy staying up that late anyway. The kids are 10 & 7 so I know they are not really young but they are not night owls at all.

DH is very used to my told you so looks :)

Just thinking what bilwill say if I called him up to apologise and say to him mumsnet declared I was unreasonable he will think I am nuts.

We had to book the 7pm panto for DD last year (she was 4.4yo). It ended about 9:30pm and we weren't home until 10pm. She was so excited she was fine, just sat on our lap for the last bit as she was flagging. As a one off it was fine and we've done the same this year.

Pleased you're going to give it a go. I think they'll be excited and hopefully won't fall asleep on the way home. Either way, it's just one night, enjoy it (pantos can be expensive!) and the DCs can have an early night the next evening. Hopefully it's not a school night, that would change it for me.

On the plus side I can always take a slight detour beforehand to checkout the sales in Birmingham., hey if I have to go that way it would be a waste not to :)

And to be fair to Bil, despite his previous faults, he doesn't have kids so I think he never would have considered that us not getting home until 11.30 may be on the late side so yes it should have been up to us (DH) to have checked when he first offered.

No no no if the kids are cranky on the way home that's exactly when you say I told you so

Not quite the same bit I took my 7 year old and 3 year old to see Paddington for a 6.40 showing last Saturday Night. The film itself didn't start until 7pm- it was packed with children, I was really surprised. My 3 year old was just about ok and really enjoyed it. My DH is currently working all week and studying all day in the work office at the weekend as it is a work related qualification. If my DC wanted to go with their Dad, the evening time was the only choice. We had a meal out before that included a dessert, so maybe the sugar kept her going. My 7.5 year old had absolutely no problems. To be fair though we got in at 9.30 and both my children will lie in the next day. On the Sunday the 3 year old got up at 9ish and the 7 year old later!

Under 5. No.

10 and 7?
Don't be ridiculous. Let them go

Relax, it's a one off. You are acting like they would be out until 4am!

Is 11.30 even late? Well done OP for realising you were being completely ridiculous. It is one night and your children are hardly young.

My parents used to book panto tickets for Xmas Eve, latest performance possible in a different town. We'd be up late and fall asleep easily.,,.Christmas Day lie in for them!