Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2

Original poster

To want DD to come off the mini pill and use something more reliable instead?

44 replies

MadMummyIsHere · 12/12/2014 14:23

First of all my DD is 17 so I know that it's up to her and she has to make her own decisions and it is up to her but at the end of the day I am still her mum and I will always worry about her.

DD has been on the mini pill for about a year now. She can't take the combined pill so when she went to the family planning clinic for contraception last year I was surprised when they put her on the mini pill instead. I would have thought they would have heavily pushed the implant or injection instead as I know they really do like to push those methods for teens anyway and also as the mini pill is even less reliable than the combined pill and has a smaller window of time in which you can take it. DD seems quite happy on it though.

However I can't help but worry. She is always busy as she is doing her A Levels and applying to university as well as keeping up with her hobbies so I'm constantly worried that she is going to forget to take it one day or take it too late.

I have brought up other methods with her several times but she always says she has looked into them and has talked about them with the nurse but they just don't appeal to her and she doesn't want them as she's happy with her pill.

I will sometimes have to nag her to make sure she has taken her pill that's why I'm worried.

OP posts:

LittleRedRidingHoodie · 12/12/2014 15:44

There is, I just looked. It's called mypill.

Please don't encourage her to have the injection. I did for a year and ended up having breast lumps removed which the GP said was probably a result of the depo injection

Original poster

MadMummyIsHere · 12/12/2014 15:45

Maybe I'm not helping her by reminding her all the time but I don't want to be a grandma yet!

OP posts:

hellsbellsmelons · 12/12/2014 15:47

My DD also 17 is on the mini pill.
She keeps them in her purse and has a phone alarm every day and doesn't forget.
She had to have implant removed recently as it was causing her to bleed 3 weeks out of 4.
She gave it a good year to settle but it just didn't.
For me the implant is fab. 2 years and no periods - Woohoo!
But it's different for everyone. I think it works better in older people.
As long as she has a good supply of condoms and is responsible then she should be fine.
Just keep reminding her every now and then.

QueenTilly · 12/12/2014 15:49

Find a mumsnetter to lend her an ill toddler for the day. That'll get her setting her alarm on her phone.

Bulbasaur · 12/12/2014 16:23

QueenTilly Or a colicky baby. Gives parents a rest, and a teen a glimpse of a possible future. Win-win.

Noodledoodledoo · 12/12/2014 16:24

I did the same as hellsbellsmelons daughter as I am shocking at remembering to take it. Kept them in my purse as pretty much always with me and an alarm set at two times in the day when I could take them. Second one tied in with breaktime at school (am a teacher not student!)

specialsubject · 12/12/2014 16:26

no pill works if it isn't put in mouth and swallowed, so the mini-pill is no less reliable than the combined for her -which she can't take anyway.

and everyone should use condoms with partners until STD tests, AS WELL as the pill. Does she know that? Does she do it?

impressed with your open relationship, so ask some blunt questions. If she's going to play adult games she needs to be a responsible adult, which means pill AND condoms every time.

Mrsjayy · 12/12/2014 16:32

1 of mine has been on the mini pill since she was 17 as a contraceptive no babies and she is nearly 22 I know it is a worry but try and trust your girl why would a dr automatically bung an implant in a 17yr old if she doesn't want it, I think with the mini pill is that it doesn't mess them up hormonal ly to much, other dd is on it but for her periods no boys on the scene yet.

itsbetterthanabox · 12/12/2014 16:33

Is reliable about taking it? Some people are some people aren't. Not really about age. I took Cerazette for 2 years from age 17 and never missed it once. For me it felt much more secure than the injection which is the same hormone as I knew I was taking it.
We used condone too. As should everyone who doesn't want STDs and is serious about not wanting a pregnancy. It is of course up to her but if you advising her id say if she is happy and reliable with the pop pill then use that and use condoms too.

Mrsjayy · 12/12/2014 16:34

I had the injection when I was younger it sent me loopy it was horrible

Mrsjayy · 12/12/2014 16:36

Dd2 is on the combined sorry my mistake

Lovelife4400 · 12/12/2014 18:30

It saddens me that there are people saying that the mother shouldn't be involved... The kid is 17, she is still a teenager living at home.. She absolutely still needs mums advice especially if she isn't responsible enough to remember to take a pill every day. Being sexually active comes with responsibility. This mother has every right to still be involved in protecting and guiding her child, just because she is 17 doesn't mean she is wise in her actions.. Education is really the key here.. Make sure she is provided with the reality.. She should be using a condom with any form of contraceptive.. Keep up the good parenting.

ThereIsAPartridgeInTheKitchen · 12/12/2014 19:20

That's just itWhatsthewhatsthebody - it's not the same. When you're on the pill you can stop taking it whenever you want to. It's completely your choice and you're the one in control of when to stop taking it.

With the implant and injection you don't have the same amount of control, certainly not with the injection at least. Once you've had the injection, that's it, it's inside you and there's no way to take it out. If you have bad side effects from it you can't just say "right I want it out now" you have to put up with it for three months or often even longer as it can often take a while to leave your system. I know someone who had one injection, hated it but her negative side effects continued for three months after the injection was supposed to wear off. So that was six months of painful periods, horrible headaches and mood swings for her.

The implant isn't as bad as it can be removed however speaking from personal experience they are very reluctant to take them out and will often just tell you to wait it out. I had an implant in for nine months and it was the worst nine months of my life. I hated it and was begging for it to be removed after four months. So I spent five months going back and forward asking them to take it out but they wouldn't budge. They kept trying to tell me that the side effects I had were nothing to do with the implant even though they'd only started when I had it put in. I have heard of other people having problems with having the implant removed and having their side effects brushed aside.

So imo no you can't compare stopping the pill to stop the injection or having an implant removed.

Namechangeyetagaintohide · 12/12/2014 19:39

I've always just used condoms personally. I should really get a coil for the double protection but at the moment I'm not going to as there is no DP on the scene.

Littlef00t · 12/12/2014 19:54

Who else is in the house? I have mine by the sink and I take it when I brush my teeth before bed. If I forget it's there, then for when I brush them in the morning (within 12hr window)

misscarlar · 12/12/2014 20:23

not read everything but
i went on the combined pill around that age - i was taken off it because of how much it affected my moods my GP wanted me on the mini pill for at least 3 months before giving me the implant as its the same hormone and they want to check its compatible.

there are 2 types of mini pills some of the new ones have a 12 hour window, but she needs to make taking it part of her routine

is she in a steady relationship - if so could her DP nag her as well, if she gets pregnant hes responsible too, if shes not then condoms need to be used as well.

she may have heard about the injection causing weight gain as well.

personally i recomend the implant - i worried about having mine in but loved it while it was there

HelenaDove · 12/12/2014 21:57

Zelleta has a 12 hour window It is the one that has replaced Cerazette.

ilovepowerhoop · 12/12/2014 22:01

there are quite a few different mini-pills (3 different 'families') these days - several are the same as cerazette with a 12 hour window and then there are others with only a 3 hour window.

www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/mini-pills.htm

ilovepowerhoop · 12/12/2014 22:02

looks like there are 5 altogether that are like cerazette (inlcuding cerazette)

Flip

1 2