AIBU to say even though I still send Christmas cards, I also give money to charity?

[FunnyBird]

I can't rant about this on Facebook, because I'll upset some of those people who are giving to charity in memory of loved ones or whatever.
But it does rankle. I feel it's implied that I'm a bad person and a charity donation shirker because I am sending Christmas cards.
Isn't this "I'm giving to charity instead of sending Christmas cards" thing more about aiding gilt for being too lazy or disorganised to send card.
rant over

I think people should decide whether or not to send Xmas cards.
I think people should decide whether or not to give to charities.
I do not think the 2 are linked. If sending people Xmas cards is all about the money to you then you shouldn't do it.
I write updates in my cards to old friends. Xmas cards are about friendship and communication to me. People who think a charity donation is a logical replacement for a card are missing the point and rob ably sent too many cards to people they didn't care about in the past.

I don't do office cards

I feel it's implied that I'm a bad person and a charity donation shirker because I am sending Christmas cards. Isn't this "I'm giving to charity instead of sending Christmas cards" thing more about aiding gilt for being too lazy or disorganised to send card.

Yet you just implied those who don't send cards are too lazy/disorganised!

Do what you want to do, just don't make out that you (general you) are somehow better than everyone else because of it.

This year I haven't sent cards as my life has been turned on it's head by FILs illness. And I can't afford to give to charity, but I volunteer at one at least 3x a week!

I send cards. I enjoy the ritual every year. My friends and family all do too. I've only seen 'the don't do cards' thing on MN. I display all our cards in our home at Christmas because they add to the glitter and festive look.

I can't afford to give to charity but I do give blood which I do put on Facebook in the hope it will encourage others to do it regularly and I'm on the marrow donor register.

I don't really care if people don't like the fact I don't contribute to charity financially. My monetary priority lies with my family always I'm afraid.

I think that's the link people make though, Eat. You can't afford to give to charity, but you do buy cards. If you didn't buy cards you would have money to give to charity. Now, I'm not saying you should do this or are somehow a bad person for sending cards! but that's why people link the two things. Do what you like doing and sod everyone else's opinion.
I don't see the point of cards, don't really display those I get most years, and they seem a massive waste of money and time. If you see it differently, that's fine. Don't imply, as the op did, that it's about laziness on my part. It's rather about priorities (mine - no need for your to be the same).

I totally get that everyone sees things differently. No offence intended or taken whatsoever. I've just never heard of the 'giving money to charity vs giving Christmas cards' except on here. Its baffling to me that the two could be connected or I could be judged for not giving money. A box of cards cost me £3. It a small festive gesture to family we rarely see, which to me is of more value. If I gave that to a charity, it would go towards next to nothing or cover chuggers wages. The blood I give will help someone directly, through use or testing/training.

I don't judge people for not giving to charity.
I don't even judge about not sending cards. There are many perfectly valid reasons for not sending them. I know I've said in my OP that people don't send them because they are lazy or disorganised, but I was writing an AIBU post, so I put something unfair in. Some people are assuaging guilt at not having got round to doing the cards they normally would do. Many probably are putting the money they would have spent on cards and postage to better use. As they see it.
I guess really I think people should be giving a much as they can to good causes, money or time or even bodily fluids (!), without trying to show how saintly they are.
Thinking about it though, sometimes charities ask us to boast on Facebook that we've donated, presumably to provoke others in to doing the same.