AIBU to think this present was a not so subtle hint?

[TillyGotTangled]

Ok I know IWBU to open it so early but that's not the point

I got a lovely big toiletry bag containing the following:

Beautiful, clearly thoughtfully chosen scarf
1 pack of bed socks
A purse
Hairbrush
Shampoo
Conditioner
Fancy hand soap
Deodorant
Perfume
Body spray
After Eights
Toothpaste
Daz washing tablets
Shower gel
Mini box of chocolates

She got me loads which I completely appreciate but I am majorly paranoid that this is a strong hint about personal hygiene. To put it into context I think I am fairly clean - I shower every second day (daily if doing anything active/mucky or on tom), I don't take HUGE pride in my appearance but get my nails done regularly, am usually in 'smart' clothes, someone does my ironing because I'm crap at it and don't want to look all wrinkly and I usually have make-up etc on.

I asked someone else I'm really close to do I smell/have poor personal hygiene and they said definitely not and I know she wouldn't lie (she was the one who pointed out about years ago how untidy my clothes were hence me paying someone else to do it) but I really can't imagine why else anyone would give the above.

AIBU to think no-one would ever give the above with no ulterior motive and that this is a big fat hint that really I'm not as clean as I think I am?

I was just about to say this is signature MIL behaviour but she's not.

The daz tablets are weird, maybe she is one of those people that like to buy useful gifts? MIL got me some knickers 8 dress sizes too big because I "had got a bit bigger after having the baby" people are odd and sometimes there's not even a motive.

Oh dear, I only shower every other day as I have eczema and my skin bleeds. I must be a right dirty slattern! Aren't people mean?

Of course it could be a hint, but it could also just be a thoughtful practical gift.

My sister gives gifts like this and once sent me a big box of washing powder with deodorant fir Xmas, but there was a theme, it was all violet smelling things so also had shampoo, chocolates, all violet scented.

It does also sound like a travel bag. I wouldn't worry, it's a nice gift and just ensure that you are clean.

This thread actually reminds me of the year my grandma bought me some deodorant for Christmas. It was just deodorant wrapped up by itself, nothing else. I have to admit I did wonder if she was trying to tell me something.

Some of that stuff sounds just like normal things you'd buy as presents tbh like the perfume. Then there are things that are just a bit to give as a present like the toothpaste.

YANBU to be paranoid though. I would be too.

Just looks to me like she has put together a little hamper for you, of things or use in everyday life. I would have been pleased with that.

Oh dear. For Christmas, I've bought a 'toy' for my daughter-in-law's nephew. It's a thing where you put letters of the alphabet in the correctly shaped place. Do you think I'll be telling the 2 year old's parents that he should be able to read by now?

It sounds like a really thoughtful gift especially as you are going away for the weekend. You're reaction to the gift though is oversensitive to the point of paranoia. Did you really question a friend about whether you smelled just because you received some toiletries for Xmas?

If you're worried you smell would showering daily not be a good idea?

Oh come on! I'm sure op doesn't need to shower daily, loads of people don't- me included. I don't smell, have never smelled and I am conscious of any aroma when it's warm etc.

Op, it was an innocent gift from the sounds of it, weekend away is a good explanation. Chances are that you don't need to wash any more than you do already remember some people on here use fresh pjs and towels everyday

I know a woman who once claimed to shower twice a day... Madness

Of course I didn't ask her! If it was/is a hint it was obviously done as kindly and as nicely as she could have and as good friend I would take it appreciatively rather than offensively.

I just really, genuinely don't think I do smell but recognise that most people that do don't actually realises until it's pointed out. I just found it slightly odd to have Daz and toothpaste with all the other smellies and questioned myself (which I think a lot of people would do).

Not to come across as defensive with the showering every second day but I just didn't think about before - my arse is in some type of seat about 14 hours a day so I'm not exactly broken in sweat and I don't want to use my precious oil if not needed. Either way, I will now permanently be part of the daily shower gang

Most of them are very odd gifts to give really. A pack with bubble bath, body wash, body butter etc is fine. Hand cream, lip balm also fine. Maybe shampoo and conditioner if it's in a little set with some serum, hairspray, mousse or something (individual bottles of shampoo and conditioner is a bit weird though IMO...)

Toothpaste is just a huge no no as is washing powder?? Even a hairbrush unless it's a snazzy one or again, as part of a set. They're very useful gifts, I guess but just seem so very odd.

I think it's the fact she hasn't just bought you a body wash set but she's bought you practically every hygeine related item in existence that makes it look as if she's hinting at something... She probably isn't fwiw but I think a lot of recipients would end up paranoid as you have done!

Some people just buy slightly weird presents though... My dm brought me cracked heel balm one Christmas, and pants in the wrong size- which she must have known because she brought me pj bottoms in the right size... I think she's just trying to be practical

I think u could get away with asking 'I loved your present x but slightly bemused by the daz'

My mum gave me similar for Christmas this year. We opened early as we're travelling out to nz. New toiletry bag with travel size products and washing stuff for use in motels. Great really useful gift.

When we moved into out new place it was near to our anniversary. Dm bought us a laundry basket filled with new home essentials - washing powder bleach, dryer sheets, tea coffee sugar milk etc. She is the queen of useful gifts.