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AIBU?

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Silly really, but 'pram-pusher' really annoyed me.

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fibrecruncher · 11/12/2014 23:37

I was in boots the other day at the checkout paying for some stuff. When I arrived it was empty so had my pram next to me. A few people were waiting in line so they opened another till. I honestly wasn't paying much attention, I had left my pram in the way but would happily have moved it, so I was definitely at fault there. However, this woman who was about to be served by the cashier next to me tried to get past, she pushed my pram, but she just made it more awkward and still couldn't get by. Then she starts complaining to me about it. I said if she'd have just said excuse me in the first place I could have moved it for her. I don't know why but I found this so annoying, I wouldn't dream of pushing someone else's pram with baby in it. AIBU?

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FreeSpirit89 · 12/12/2014 09:45

YABU - you should have moved the pram close to you and out of the way of the walk way.

She shouldn't have pushed the pram.

BeyondTheTreelights · 12/12/2014 09:47

All she had to do was ask, yanbu

I had a woman move my wheelchair the other day, so she could get her pram through. I had forgotten until i read this. All she had to do was ask, as with the post above, i am not a shopping trolley!

rebelfor · 12/12/2014 09:49

I think you should have made sure your pram wasn't an obstruction in the first place to be honest.

That said, I would move a trolley if it was in my way, but not a pram (unless the person blatantly ignored my polite request to move it).

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 12/12/2014 09:58

I've moved prams before, but only after asking if it's okay - usually empty ones in cafes, where there's no space to park them.
No one has ever said no or huffed. If someone moved my pram without a word I would give them my patented Death Stare. Just ask, it's not hard. Trying to concentrate on not letting a baby fall/hit head/grab stuff/whatever and pushing a pram and trying to shop means your awareness of others can be reduced - quite natural, IMO. I don't think pram-pushers are doing it deliberately (I'm not!), so a gentle reminder is all that's needed.

WorraLiberty · 12/12/2014 10:07

I racking my brains here, trying to think why on earth someone wouldn't simply move the pram.

What does it matter whether she asks you to move it or moves it herself?

It's not like she flung the baby out, is it?

SanityClause · 12/12/2014 10:22

YABU for having your pram in the way; SIBU for pushing it, rather than saying, "oh, excuse me, could I just get by?"

SanityClause · 12/12/2014 10:26

Well, I agree to a point, Worra, but pushing it herself seems a bit aggressive. Politely asking for it to be moved, or even saying "Can I just move this so I can get to the till?" - whichever one, said with a smile - would have been more friendly.

However, no harm done, and maybe the OP will remember to be more aware of how her pram could be in other people's way, in future.

OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 12/12/2014 10:30

She should have asked you to move.

OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 12/12/2014 10:32

Beyond that's unbelievable!

Fallingovercliffs · 12/12/2014 10:35

I suppose in that situation I'd have caught your eye and indicated the pram was in my way rather than just push it. And I can understand sometimes you just unintentionally leave a pram in the way of someone else. These things happen.
I don't really get all the indignation on Mumsnet though about anyone daring to 'touch' a baby or make any kind of contact with them. It's a bit precious. - Not you OP, just some of the comments on here and other threads.

WorraLiberty · 12/12/2014 10:35

I don't think it's aggressive, although if it was me I'd say "Sorry, just moving this to get past" as I was moving it.

But I certainly wouldn't expect the parent to get pissed off about it.

TooHasty · 12/12/2014 10:36

If it was only a few inches I think you are being a bit precious.
When I was a baby my mum left my pram outside the village shop.It was teh done thing, as prams were big coach prams then.A passing elderly lady took me for a walk!!

LadyLuck10 · 12/12/2014 10:40

Pushing sounds like an exaggeration. She would have no reason to push it. She probably moved it and you're just being precious.

minipie · 12/12/2014 10:53

If you don't want people to move your pram then you need to be more aware of when it's in someone's way.

I don't think it's an issue to move someone else's pram when the pram owner is clearly busy in the middle of paying. You might even call it trying to be helpful...

londonrach · 12/12/2014 11:03

Yabu for leaving it there. Think i would have done what worra said she do. I know my dad would move the pram without asking as he so used to prams etc it would cross his mind and being deaf he cant hear responses so kinda given up asking. Anyway no harm done. Pram was moved, lady got past, shopping continued...

Viviennemary · 12/12/2014 11:10

YABU. But people do the same with supermarket trolleys and whole families of people blocking out stuff while they debate which tin of beans to buy. Just be a bit more considerate in future.

Whippet81 · 12/12/2014 13:07

YANBU.

If someone leaves their trolley in the way I say 'excuse me can I just get past'. If they ignore me I am likely to shove it.

I would never shove someone's pram. I would ask as above and to be honest be pretty annoyed if you still ignored me but I would stand and wait.

Everyone just needs to chill the fuck out.

Saying that I could have quite easily clobbered the woman in M&S the other day who had her shopping in the basket on top of the other baskets whilst she sorted it out. Twice we asked if she could move it so we could have a basket and she completely ignored then on the third time sighed, turned round and said 'I heard you the first time you'll have to wait a bit.' Me and MIL are still giggling about that one. I should have shoved her.

Lomega · 12/12/2014 14:28

It drives me mad when people shove/barge past or touch anything of mine when they could have said 'excuse me' in the first place. Supermarkets are the worst. YANBU

fragola · 12/12/2014 15:12

YANBU - surely she should have given you the chance to move it. The usual way to do this is by saying 'Excuse me please.' or 'Can I get past please?' Absolutely no need to get grumpy and start shoving people's prams. What is wrong with people?!

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