to expect not to have to organise my own hen do??

[senna123]

I have 4 bridesmaids and even though they don't know each other very well we have all met up a handful of times so they can all bond.

I asked my maid of honour to organise the hen do and gave her some ideas. She said she wanted to organise it with me so that it was something that I liked.. that is fine.. I went to hers a few months ago and we went through everything. Months later and still nothing has been done. I messaged a few places that we had been talking about and they are all fully booked. The wedding isn't until next Summer but as I suspected everything gets booked very early for this popular season.

AIBU to think it is a sorry affair having to plan my own hen even though I have what I thought was 4 very good friends as friends? Or is this normal and I should just get on with it with no bad feeling?

Please help!

If I was taking a male life drawing class and a load of giggly girls on a hen do came in I would be pissed off and so would the model.

Make your hen do simple and cheap and give people lots of notice. I think way too much significance is given to hen dos. I am starting to feel sorry for wedding guests these days!

I think you are over stressing since nobody will move on this after Christmas. If you value your friends at all, don't let your bridesmaids "include" your costs and make your friends pay for the bride!

Ooo ok silent and mincepie...bet you get your bfs fighting over you two organiser their hen do's

Jaysus! Poor model! Will you be drunk and discussing his bits and bod?

Oh God, I had a groupon offer for this hellish-sounding activity the other week - is this what's given you the idea...?

I organised my own hen. My bf/chief bridesmaid lived 200 miles away and didn't know half the people going, so it didn't occur to me that she was meant to be doing anything for me beyond getting me drunk... Also that way it meant that we did what I wanted, all my mates were there and nothing too tacky occurred.

Mind you, I'm ancient and my hen night was just that - a hen NIGHT. None of this 3 day weekend malarkey...

I suspect the reason they are "booked" is related to dignity more than demand...

Hens ripping the piss of art and nude people....

My dd insisted on organising her's so she could be sure of getting what she wanted. Knowing her 4 bridesmaids and the matron of honour, it was a good idea.

YANBU about organising your own hen do, and think saying you don't mind what you do should be nice for your bridesmaids and very un-bridezilla!

However I've just got an email about a hen do in April, and this is from a maid of honour who I know who is ultra organised so don't worry it's probably just a bit early. I do understand why you're worried though but there's lots d time so leave them to get on with it and trust them.

I organised my own hen do, but then my all my bridesmaids were children. Having said that, I think I would have organised my own anyway as then I got what I wanted, not some elaborate thing that cost every one loads of money. I had a meal and a disco thing at the restaurant then those who wanted to, went on to a couple of local bars.

Organize it yourself as I fear you may have complaints whatever they do. My sister went on a hen with the nudey man drawing. Don't worry people, it's a 'thing' so no poor random man is being descended upon. Apparently it was all pretty naff and then they couldn't get rid of him (he came to them). Might want to rethink that. Is it considered a posher way to have a stripper perhaps?

BringMeTea, I think that's awful! The only point is that it is anatomical art and not a naked man for people to look at in amusement.

Oh and turn that around- a stag do going to a life drawing class? I tell it's a bad, bad slippery slope.

Hen dos seem to have become v complicated. It used to be that the bride just arranged to meet with a group of her friends in the pub or a local restaurant.

Maybe no-one wants to do male life drawing and they're too scared to tell you. I mean, WTAF, is this a thing now?

Fallingovercliffs, that's what they still should be if you ask me ! ((hoiks bosom))

Weddings and hens and stags have snowballed into ridiculous consumerism.

I organised my own through one of the bridesmaids.

I had a fear of it being an utter tackfest/getting out of hand expensive which would put people off attending.

Can i just check if "male life drawing" is a euphemism for "stripper"?

Also yabu to think that anyone is going to care as much about your hen do as you are. It's your day, not theirs so they are naturally not going to be as bothered about booking up so far in advance

I organised my hen do and certainly didn't expect my bridesmaid to do it for me.

Was pretty simple really and kept it to one night rather than these very expensive and complicated long weekend extravaganza's that now seem so popular.

All of my friends were actually really pleased as they didn't have to part with any money at all for the night and all had a brilliant time.