To ask you how to tell (step)DDs I'm pregnant.

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Background - I have 2 stepdaughters, ages 16 & 14. I have been with their dad for 2.5 years. They stay with us Friday & Saturday nights and visit during the week.

I've just found out I'm 9 weeks pregnant -- I assumed my lack of periods was my age (44 ) and I didn't have any morning sickness. We hadn't been trying but we're really happy. This will be my first child.

My SDs will be coming to us over Christmas and they're coming to my home country to see my family. I will be ~11 weeks then so obvs. will want to tell my parents & would like to tell DDs beforehand, but I really don't know how to approach it? I get on really well with both of them - the oldest often calls me her "second mum" - but I know this will be a really big change for both of them.

Any of you told teenage kids/stepkids? Any ideas?

I'm sure they'll be thrilled! It's a good idea to tell them before telling the rest of your family it will make them feel much more included as a family unit. My DSD was 9 the first time I got pregnant and was very very happy about it. Do avoid saying half sibling as it can lessen the meaning of them being siblings and would probably have a negative effect. I personally hate the term "half" sister or brother, I think it's quite derogatory.

Good luck and congratulations.

Aww lovely news for you OP, must have been quite the surprise!

They sound like nice girls who will be happy for you. I don't like the terms half-brother/half-sister either, it sounds so cold and distant. Just tell them they're going to have a new brother or sister and enjoy their reactions!