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Massive family row about flashing lights. IANBU.

69 replies

PreMadonna · 08/12/2014 17:27

Outdoors tree.

I cannot abide a flashing light. Absolutely loathe them. They give me rage.

Every single bloody arsing time I leave the house some fucker changes the lights from static to flashing.

I have lost my rag and threatened to cancel Christmas if anyone puts the bastard lights onto flash again.

The discussion got quite heated. Nobody is talking to anyone else.

IANBU am I?

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BlueGreenHazelGreen · 08/12/2014 17:40

I can cope with flashing lights if they all flash together. Sever houses near me have more than one set of outside lights which flash out of sync. I am unreasonably irritated.

Oh, YABU btw. But you knew that.

Buttercupsanddaisys · 08/12/2014 17:42

True that they can trigger migraines, tho :(
Like the TV warnings 'contain flashing images'.

fieldfare · 08/12/2014 17:46

Yanbu. They're fucking irritating and trigger my migraines.

Buy other lights to your spec. Wait for everyone else to be out. Change lights. Blame the elf on the shelf/fairies/other mysterious being.

Hatespiders · 08/12/2014 17:48

YANBU. I hate any flashing or ultra-bright lights. They trigger my vertigo-type migraine too, Countess. Also, if there are any opposite, it affects your sleep, unless you have blackout curtains.
People in our village are starting to get into this flashing light stuff. We have no street lights here, so you notice it all the more. The worst are those awful lurid blue lights; they seem to be quite a new thing. I'm not being snobbish, it's just they literally do my head in!

Jux · 08/12/2014 18:02

I think that outside lights are tacky.

catsofa · 08/12/2014 18:09

Go on, cut the plug off. Or tell us where you live and one of us will come round and do it while you are indoors with them all so you have a completely solid alibi. Or one of us will come round and have a seizure in your front garden for you, so your family will all feel terrible and wish they had only listened to you all along.

LokiBear · 08/12/2014 18:10

I hate flashy lights too. And clocks that tick. Both give me the irrational rage! Apologise to your family but reissue your request to leave the lights on a non flashy setting. This will be a funny story one day.

bungmean · 08/12/2014 18:12

Are you sure they're actually flashing, and you're not just blinking?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 08/12/2014 18:14

White lights, definitely NOT flickering, are the only right way.

OP - YANBU!!

Bakeoffcakes · 08/12/2014 18:15

YADNBU

I hate the bastard things.

We were out on Saturday to a pub, they had lights all along the beams and I thought they looked very pretty.
However, I'd been lulled into a false sense of security. Every 5 minutes they would flipping start flashing, very quickly.

Thankfully they were annoying my friend too, so we spent some time looking for a corner where we wouldn't have to be disturbed by flashing.
must have looked like a pair of twats

Cornettoninja · 08/12/2014 18:27

Is there a switch? Break it when it's on the normal setting and you don't need new lights.

Good on you by the way - hate, hate, hate anything other than a gentle twinkle. It's Christmas not a fricking rave people!

Marylou62 · 08/12/2014 18:44

I Love you lot!!! Same here, I hate them.....couldn't under thumbscrews tell you why...but hate them....sometimes you just have to tell the ones you love that you really, really, strongly, dislike something...but my family say 'look Mum' then pour red sauce all over the egg yolk and mix it together....makes my guts turn!

HappyAgainOneDay · 08/12/2014 18:50

Wonder why television news items have a warning about flashing lights.......

Squtternutbaush · 08/12/2014 18:51

If you're getting really irrate about they're deliberately noising you up...

My mum threw a total flaky once because the canvases in her kitchen went wonky, now my brother and I turn them upside down randomly throughout the year and it drives her mental we're obviously very mature adults :o

Hatespiders · 08/12/2014 19:32

It's true they'll wind you up all the more, now they know you hate it! My yr 4 classes soon found out I'm terrified of bloody spiders (There was often one sitting in the 'art sink' Teacher freaks out - hohoho) Plastic ones were hidden in my register, on my chair, in my drawer, furry ones in the chalk box... And once a real one; some boys had actually gone down to the boiler room and asked the caretaker to help them find one 'for a science lesson'. They had it in a plastic box and took the lid off to show me. I had to run out and get a colleague to deal with it. Little blighters.

I reckon this Battle Of The Flashers (not THAT sort) will rumble on...and on...

CallMeExhausted · 08/12/2014 19:43

I detest full flashing strands, but I was very lucky to find some lights that fit in a middle ground for my DH and me.

They are strands of 60 lights, and one out of every six lights flashes randomly. Because of that, there is a gentle twinkle instead of a "LOOK AT ME" flash.

Perhaps you can find something like that at the post Christmas sales and nail your DH's feet to the floor so he can't buy anything else gaudy

Preciousbane · 08/12/2014 19:44

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youbethemummylion · 08/12/2014 19:46

Flashing lights are for the emergency services only they have no place on a Christmas tree.

McButtonwillow · 08/12/2014 19:51

Yanbu. We have flashing lights on our indoor tree- every night as soon as the dc go to bed I change them to static or the nice fadey inny and outey setting.

As if that wasn't bad enough dh bought them new this year, 2 sets (300 lights in total) of blue & white led garishness loveliness. The first night we had them on they gave me a headache and made me feel like vomiting,

Bakeoffcakes · 08/12/2014 19:55

On the tele they issue a warning about flashing lights- "This report contains flashing images"

Now if they have to do that on the tele, why is any random person allowed free access to flashing lights??

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 08/12/2014 19:58

I bloody love this thread. Especially Catsofa's last post and Youbethemummylion being so firm.

SnowSpot · 08/12/2014 19:59

YANBU. At all.
All flashing lights are the work of the devil.
I have the same aversion to LED lights because they strafe my eyeballs and make houses look like an airport landing strip.
I would find a way of sabotaging them and go buy some nice untwinkly ones.

Littlegreyauditor · 08/12/2014 20:27

Sounds like you have a low critical flicker fusion rate OP, which is a legitimate physiological reason to take a claw hammer to the flicker 'on' switch. Xmas Grin

2of3 · 08/12/2014 21:08

YABU. You said they switch them when you're out of the house. You don't like them, but why should they not enjoy the flash/flicker when you're out?

PreMadonna · 08/12/2014 21:20

Because they are an abomination whether ai am there or not.

It has been decreed. I am not wrong nor unreasonable.

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