to get a view small Xmas present for DF and his partner even though they have asked me not to?

[Nothavingfunrightnow]

My father and his partner are coming to us for Christmas and will be staying for 4 nights. We are really looking forward to it!

However, Dad (who is 81) has asked that we do not get them any presents at all. I agreed, but then I felt it would be awful for them on Christmas morning if DH, DS and I were opening gifts but they had nothing! So, all I am doing for them is getting them a stocking with a few small bits in it.

Is that okay? this is the first time that I am having them over and I really want them to enjoy it!

I don't want to put them in a spot, though. AIBU to get them a few bits?

[fredfredgeorgejnr]

I never understand why anyone would buy someone a present when they've asked them not to - it's just rude, they've asked you not to - why do you want to do anything else?

It's really not awful not opening presents when other people are, it's nice watching other people enjoy (or not) their presents.

But if you're really sure it's purely about funds, and not because he really doesn't like them, then it might not be so bad in this scenario.

[ImperialBlether]

If they are bringing presents for the children, could the children not give presents to them?

[Nothavingfunrightnow]

"View small" in title????

WTF?

Ah, well, at least everyone knew what I meant.

[Nothavingfunrightnow]

Update: all sorted. I told DF I had bought very small things for them and he was happy with that. I am glad I told him.

Thanks for all the advice.:)

[Nothavingfunrightnow]

So glad I bought some things! Dad's partner bought loads of things! When she moaned at me for buying stuff, I reminded her that it was her idea not to.