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... to have hated 2014?

66 replies

Crumbelina · 06/12/2014 23:12

This year has been absolutely awful!

I've been trying to conceive my first child for over 18 months and have had 12 months of negative pregnancy tests this year. My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer, I missed out on a job I really wanted and (icing on the cake), I've just developed an inflammation of the optic nerve, which is quite often the first sign of Multiple Sclerosis. I'm not superstitious but I'm wondering what else is around the corner.

Sorry, not looking for sympathy, just wondered if anyone else can’t wait to see the back of this year? I'm going to be quaffing far too many glasses of fizz on New Year’s Eve and hoping that things turn around in 2015 …

Moan, moan, poor me etc.

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katese11 · 07/12/2014 10:42

Can't wait to see the back of 2014...lost my FIL, DM had breast cancer and one of my friends has just been diagnosed now. All on top of a stressy house move during which the kids had chicken pox and the car broke down. Other friends have had various crappy things happen too. It's the year that's just kept kicking.

cherubimandseraphim · 07/12/2014 10:42

2012-13 were awful for me (lots of terrible things happening to me and people dear to me), and 2014 has been better, but I have still felt in a fog of depression and tiredness and as if I haven't recovered yet from everything. Am desperately hoping that 2015 will be a turn-around - I used to be a bouncy, confident, competent, busy, organised person and now I seem to have turned into someone I don't even recognise - tired, look ten years older, relationship problems, work problems, no motivation, house a mess and things like blinds not ordered from when we moved in almost a year ago. No money. Feel really trapped and down. Still haven't processed everything that happened to me in 2012-13. Hoping it will all lift a bit next year or that I can somehow break out of it. Sending good wishes your way too OP!

katese11 · 07/12/2014 10:45

all round

Stepupstepdown · 07/12/2014 11:09

I thought 2013 was bad but 2014 has been worse. I've had my teenager arrested for shoplifting then subsequently running away 3 times. My 45 year old Sister becoming symptomatic with Huntingtons disease with the knowledge that myself and my other sister and our children are also at risk. A miscarriage and going for a D&C but passing the foetus before I went for surgery, that was pretty horrific. My Son's 32 year old Uncle who I'd known since we were kids committing suicide. My Uncle dying. Added to this pretty constant money worries and now both Dp and myself are about to be car less, mine has died and his is about to fail its MOT. We both need separate cars for work and have no money to fix either car or to buy a new one let alone two.

I will be very glad to see the back of 2014 and I really do hope our luck is about to change soon.

Naughtyornicename · 07/12/2014 11:53

Goodbye and good riddance to 2014 - you were rubbish! Welcome to 2015, ease be kind.

JugglingFromHereToThere · 07/12/2014 12:03

Bloody awful year. Lost my nephew

Will be opening those doors and windows wide on New Year's Eve to make sure 2014 see's the door and to welcome in 2015 hoping we can begin to have some happier days again in the New Year.

Might take the DC up to London to see the fireworks over The Thames - never done that yet

Un-Mumsnetty hugs and MNty best wishes to all for the New Year

and for seeing the back of 2014

brokenhearted55a · 07/12/2014 13:01

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Orangeanddemons · 07/12/2014 13:04

Mine was hideous too. Am desperate for 2015.

2 house fires, entailing moving out for 6months, and entire house and contents a write off. Broken nose which is going to have to be re broken and reset. Permanent bad back. Food poisoning on holiday.

Bunbaker · 07/12/2014 13:15

Two house fires. How awful. How did they start?

Whowillsaveyoursoul · 07/12/2014 13:20

Horrid 2014 several cycles of ivf and no baby. Hoped last christmas that by this christmas id at least be pregnant. Now been told there's no hope even with fertility treatment.

Can't see 2015 being any better.
Can't actually see any year ever for the rest of my life being better.
We will never be a family.

for everyone else with tales of woe from 2014

FurryDogMother · 07/12/2014 13:22

Not been a great year here either - my Dad's dementia continues to progress, so for the foreseeable future I'll be 'commuting' from Ireland to the UK on a 2 month on, 1 month off basis. A good friend is in hospital, not sure whether he's going to ever come out. Our car died and we can't afford to replace it, so we're living in the middle of rural nowhere with nothing but an electric push bike to get the shopping with etc. My own health continues to be dodgy, but I don't have the time, the money, nor the opportunity to get it sorted out, due to not being a UK resident, even though I'm there 2/3rds of the time. Still no sign of work for my husband - even if there were any suitable jobs (which there aren't) he'd be hard pushed to get to them on a bike (very limited public transport - bus stop a mile from home with 3 buses a day)!

However - it could be worse, and next year we finally finish paying the mortgage, which will allow us to save up for a skip (oo the ambitions we have!) so we can start mucking the house out, maybe manage to heat more than one room at a time, and then perhaps save up for a small and very secondhand, car.

So, in summary, 2014 wasn't great, but 2015 may have more going for it - I live in hope, and try to remain optimistic!

wigglesrock · 07/12/2014 14:29

I'm the same. 2014 began with the sudden death of a much loved family member. Just a shocking, horrible accident which we are all still reeling from and it's ending with my lovely, lovely Dad being diagnosed with bowel cancer and currently in hospital following the removal of the tumour. I can't wait until this year to end but at the same time I'm very frightened of what 2015 might bring.

Orangeanddemons · 07/12/2014 16:07

Tumble dryer caught fire. Entire house and contents written off.then the grill caught fire in the house we are renting whilst ours is being repaired. 2 fire engines, police everything...

CrohnicallyAnxious · 07/12/2014 17:31

Pretty shit year for me too- depression, anxiety and a family member cancer diagnosis. The Drs forgot/lost my psych referral and that meant an extra 2 month delay. My Crohn's has flared up with all the stress.

The only saving grace is that it's now 4 1/2 years and counting since my CIS- and no more MS symptoms, so hopefully I'm one of the ones who only ever has 1 episode, and I hope you are too!

moxon · 07/12/2014 18:19

2012 to 2014 deserve to be stranded on a desert island with only a pistol and a single bullet.
I'm still waiting for the one good bit (DC) to start outweighing all the crap. It hasn't yet.
Strongs, OP. Strongs.

Topseyt · 07/12/2014 18:21

Some very sad posts on this thread.

Fingers crossed for a better 2015 all around.

It has been a difficult year here too. My MIL died in May after a year long struggle with inoperable lung cancer.

There has been a lot of family strife since then. Delay after delay with the sale of her house means that it STILL hasn't completed. It has led to a lot of tension amongst hubby and his siblings (long story).

On the plus side, I finally managed to find myself a job, so our financial position is less dire than it was. I'll be thankful for small mercies.

2014 can bugger off. Hoping for a smoother passage through 2015.

plinkyplonks · 07/12/2014 18:34

2013 was a big pile of bollocks, 2014 was even worse. Bring on 2015!

gamerchick · 07/12/2014 18:35

Ah man so sorry to read this thread

2014 has been horrendous here too. I mean proper nearly sucking thumb in a corner bad.

It's actually scarred my soul so haven't escaped with all of my toodles intact but still hoping for a good 2015

We all need a good next year methinks.

KingscoteStaff · 07/12/2014 18:36

Another rubbish 2014 - death of best friend, DF and DM playing tag team in and out of hospital, DH just missed out on dream job.

BUT I can assure you that odd years are better than even years. ALL the great things in my life have happened in odd years. So 2015 - I love you already!

DrSethHazlittMD · 07/12/2014 18:48

I've had 4 shit years with only a couple of moments of enjoyment or positivity despite constantly keeping on. Getting to the point now where if things don't start turning around in 2015 I'm seriously considering not bothering hanging around for 2016.

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Crumbelina · 07/12/2014 19:22

Oh gosh, such sad stories on here - I really hope that it gets better for everyone. Reading some of these it makes me feel like I should be more grateful for the good things in my life. It's funny how you don't really hear of people who have a run of good luck that lasts for years, yet bad luck can just keep on coming and slapping you in the face.

Crohnically, that's great news about being symptom free for so long. Reading up on MS it seems like the fear of the unknown can be the worst thing.

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gamerchick · 07/12/2014 19:25

Ahh drseth that does sound sucky . Please don't let it get to that point though :(

longestlurkerever · 07/12/2014 19:31

2014 started off really crappily for me too, with a missed miscarriage, then another (after one in 2013 too and plenty of bfns in between). And dh has been quite ill. But it's pulled it out of the bag at the last moment with what looks (touch wood) like it will be a successful pregnancy, and dsis got engaged, so lots to look forward to in 2015. I really hope things start looking up for all of you too.

TSSDNCOP · 07/12/2014 19:35

Kingscote I have the same experience re odd number years!!

Sallystyle · 07/12/2014 19:42

Half of 2013 and all of 2014 sucked here too.

Dec 2013 my kids lost their dad (my ex), at the start of 2014 they lost two grandparents, all three losses were to cancer.

This year has all been about surviving. We are all a bit broken.

However, I am looking forward to this Xmas. The anniversary of their dad's death is on the 13th and last Xmas they were numb from the loss and this Xmas is going to be difficult but it will sure beat last years. His last wish was to see his children smile on Xmas day. He didn't get his wish but we will have a good time in his memory. It will be difficult but I also expect some happiness this Xmas too.

All I want for 2015 is for no one to die.

I am sorry OP for your awful year and for everyone else Lets hope 2015 brings good things, I would settle for just boring.

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