To be annoyed that DH always feeds the kids crap

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DH is lazy. He will always go for the easy option. Whenever he's in sole charge of our DCs, aged 10 and 5, he will basically just give them crap to eat. I'm getting really cross about it but he thinks I'm being unfair.

Last night I went out; DD was at a friend's house and so DH just had to do tea for 5 year old DS. He gave him a huge muller corner crunch yoghurt, jam on toast and a 4 finger kit kat! I'm all for treats, but it boils my blood that DH would think that that was suitable for a main meal.

Whenever he's with the kids he'll just give them constant crisps, biscuits and sweets. I think he does that to shut them up so that he can do his own thing.

I know some of you will say that I'm being controlling and that I parent my way and he parents his way, but I don't think it's rocket science to know that constant junk isn't good for kids (or anyone...), and that they need a balanced diet. I also don't see why I should be the one picking up all the slack and thinking of healthy meals and preparing healthy food all the time. I can never really give the kids any treats because he stuffs them so full of crap.

What is wrong with beans on toast? Perfectly healthy meal.

How annoying.

I feel your pain. No solution other than micro managing all meals:( batch cooking and leaving it out explaining what's for each meal.

Yup, likewise pissed off with having to be the food baddie/police.

^My dh does this . It really annoys me because I always feel the pressure to give my dcs healthy food as dh tends to give them crap.
I want to be able to give them crap once in a while, as sometimes I just don't feel like cooking .^

That's it, exactly.

I think the yogurt and kit kat are ok as a treat pudding. I would be annoyed about the jam on toast though, it's not very filling. Ham sandwiches or poached eggs would have been better and just as easy.

Loool beans on toast is healthy and a Meal? I feel sorry for your kids

Wow Delarosa, that's rude! Every mum I know including myself gives their kid beans on toast every now and then as a quick meal- it's a complete protein, low in saturated fat and a portion of veg. We use the reduced salt beans and add another portion of veg. It's hardly in the same category as a sugary yoghurt and sugary jam!

When you say he thinks you are being unfair, what does he think you are unfair about? That it is a fin meal? That it's okay as an occasional treat? Or that he should be able to feed what he likes?

It's the kind of food dh would serve, and also eat, if I wasn't there to cook. I leave food plated up to microwave because I know this will happen. Altho dh often ignores this and takes ds to the cafe for chocolate cake for lunch. I don't go out much!

And I dream of dh 'cooking' something healthy like beans on toast! pasta may as well be master chef.

Delarosa - I wouldn't waste your energy love, mine don't even like it. I would be happy if they would eat beans on toast occasionally, would save me a fortune.

Well, on the rare occasion DH has to feed the kids he will feed them well BECAUSE I leave it all ready made for him, I've given up and realised it's the only way!!!!!!!!!!!!

He also often gives them the main bits and leave out the chopped olives / cherry tomatoes / chopped cucumber, grapes and carrot I've lovingly prepared.............

Can he cook? Does he know how?

Is it worth having the ingredients and recipe out so that he doesn't have to decide what to make for tea

Educate him. There must be some documentaries about food or ask your HV to talk to him and explain what a balanced meal should look like.

Yes, pity the people who have a bowl of tomato soup and beans on toast. Pity them. For they shall wither on the vine of life and shrivel at the altar of five a day.

What the he'll is wrong with beans on toast? What a rude post. Beans aren't evil food, nor is toast. Its cheap, filling and fairly nutritious. How patronising to say, "I feel sorry for your kids".

*hell

Thing is, it would take more effort to get DS out of the house, down the shops and back again, than it would going to the kitchen and shoving something into the oven.

He has easier options than buying that crap.

I had beans on wholemeal toast with cheese for my dinner. 'Twas lovely

I would tell DH that if he doesn't stop, you will arrange for the HV to come and explain what children should be eating. Diet is definitely a HVs remit

Loool beans on toast is healthy and a Meal? I feel sorry for your kids

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Save your sympathy for kids who are living in poverty, Bering emotionally or physically abused. Not those who are getting beans on toast every now and again.

what actually is wrong about brand on toast anyway apart from the sugar and salt (jury is out on salt anyway!)? Carbs, protein, fat, veg, cheap and tastey. Add some carrot sticks and your golden.

I am happy to give my son beans on toast once a week and battered fish with oven chips and peas on a Saturday night. I think it's absolutely fine as long as they have variety and plenty of fruit and veg.

Nothing wrong with beans on toast. Ffs. not the best meal in the world but a damn site better than jam sandwiches and chocolate. contains veg and protein For a start.

far better for a kid than throwing a pack of biscuits at them.