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To be shocked that there are men who want to breast feed...

23 replies

akennyg · 06/12/2014 01:51

And women who will take cash to feed them?
onlythebreast.co.uk/breast-milk-classifieds-uk/browse-categories/26/men-wanting-milk/

Wow! It's a new one on me- did you know this was a thing??

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MillionToOneChances · 06/12/2014 01:54

I accidentally found out about the adult nappy scene Shock via a careless google search term when my kids were little, so nothing like this surprises me any more.

AGnu · 06/12/2014 02:06

I read the title & assumed that men wanted to be able to feed their babies from their own breasts. Bit weird, I thought, but theoretically possible I believe & I can see some men wanting to know what it's like...

The thought of breastfeeding an adult stranger gives me the heebie jeebies.

EatShitDezza · 06/12/2014 02:27

I thought you me at men want to feed their own child and I was about to say I'd quite like to pee stood up but this is not what I expected!

Bulbasaur · 06/12/2014 02:31

I'm not sure which is weirder. The thought that men want to breast feed their babies, which I originally thought this was about. Or the fact that women actually take up these ads and breast feed adult men.

Ick.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 06/12/2014 02:57

Yeah I knew it was a thing. Of all the weird and wonderful fetishes out there it's pretty harmless.

moxon · 06/12/2014 04:06

A little bit of research happening out there on getting male lactation up to the point of allowing them to successfully breastfeed. You can already induce lactation in women who e.g. adopt with reasonable success presuming you start hormone treatment early, and since men have the physical ability to produce milk it just needs a bit more hormonal influence...and a change in societal thinking! It would be great for adoptive couples, gay parents, for mothers who cannot breastfeed but their partners could, and generally for sharing the workload in heterosexual couples.
I have no idea what research is being conducted into the OP's actual reference activity....? Hmm I'm guessing one could start with Freud for that.

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 06/12/2014 04:49

I would love it if dh could bf our children.

Bulbasaur · 06/12/2014 05:40

moxon I cannot imagine that pumping artificial hormones into a person (male or female) will be good for the baby, even if it were possible.

The entire point of breastfeeding is for the nutritional value.

Assuming they were perfectly safe, artificial hormones would not accomplish anything better than formula for the same reasons vitamin pills are inferior to eating vegetables and getting your nutrition straight from the source.

moxon · 06/12/2014 06:13

Bulbasaur Not artificial hormones as such, but triggering the prolactin process naturally, as they currently do for some mothers who adopt infants and want to breastfeed. Some bodies will do it without help (even adoptive bodies), others need some guiding (even pregnant ones); sometimes it doesn't work at all as lots of people know. I think the argument is closer to allowing the experience for bonding reasons and short term feeding than for longterm breastfeeding. From what I've read I think in adoptive mothers (unless someone on here has experience of this and can correct me) the process doesn't produce colostrum, for example. And you don't always need explicit hormones. Domperidone will encourage prolactin secretion; I've taken it to boost my supply when I went through a 'dry' spell and if was brilliant.

3bunnies · 06/12/2014 06:21

I would love to see Claridge's and Farage's reaction to a man breastfeeding in public. Would be great too in terms of parental leave. I did try to persuade dh to try to stimulate lactation but he wasn't keen.

Could open up new possibilities for the gentlemen in the OP!

Bulbasaur · 06/12/2014 06:24

moxon I could perhaps see that for mothers, since women biologically will naturally produce breast milk under the right circumstances.

But for men who are not biologically able to produce it? I can't imagine it being any better than formula.

moxon · 06/12/2014 06:42

But men can produce breastmilk! The goodies are all there. Lactation is a symptom of a number of disorders and meds, and it is not hugely uncommon. Generally though because it is an unwanted effect and seen as embarrassing, it is not commonly discussed. Most men won't go round saying they are leaking milk to their mates over a beer in the pub. Shock

moxon · 06/12/2014 06:43

Could open up new possibilities for the gentlemen in the OP!

Grin
Waltonswatcher · 06/12/2014 07:40

I could do this!
Is it lucrative ?
I could still mn at the same time too.

Tryharder · 06/12/2014 08:00

I didn't realise it was possible for adults to actually latch on and breastfeed.i thought the latch reflex was lost at around the age of 7.

Tryharder · 06/12/2014 08:04

I wonder how much you can charge to breastfeed an adult male for sexual purposes??

Anyone?

Waltonswatcher · 06/12/2014 08:06

I don't think it's sexual . I watched a programme about it once . It's more comfort and security . There's no sex involved usually.

ReluctantCamper · 06/12/2014 08:09

I know. It could funds my maternity leave. Tempting..... not really

bf1000 · 06/12/2014 08:19

In Mongolia - breastfeeding is seen as normal part of childhood and breastmilk as of great nutritional importance.
If someone is engorged - and baby is wanting to feed a family member, friend etc will relieve that engorgement. If expressed milk is in the fridge anyone in the family would choose to drink it. If someone in the area is poorly they will be given breastmilk from lactating mothers to help with their recovery.

Breast milk is very highly regarded and their whole outlook is very different. Breastfeeding in public is met with approval from everyone.

on a different note - stimulating lactation in adoptive mothers is possible via pumping before adoption and then using a supplemental feeding system. It may be possibel to produce enough milk to feed breastfeeds only but it is likely feeds will need supplementing however the bonding would be wonderful for baby and mum.
Males are also genetically able to produce milk. There has been cases where this has occurred so it could be stimulated through pumping etc too if someone wanted to.

cheesecakemom · 06/12/2014 08:58

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DoJo · 06/12/2014 09:13

As a general rule, if you can imagine it - someone is turned on by it.

Whatsthewhatsthebody · 06/12/2014 11:46

Mongolia the new tourist destination Confused

Actually with my 4th child I got completely and utterly engirged with a blocked milk duct. The pain was awful and tried feeding to clear it but nothing was working.

Finally I got dhs head held it to my nipple and told him to suck hard.

He did and it just magically unblocked. The milk just gushed out and the relief was immediate.

Now sometimes during the last 26 years of marriage a similar situation with a role reversal had sometimes occurred Iycwim.Smile so that was karma.

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