The term "little retards"

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A grown woman has used this term to describe the people who have burgled someone else. Apparently I need to "get over it" and I'm a troll because she has special needs as do her kids and she doesn't find it offensive and it's just a phrase

I mean seriously she thinks this is acceptable what is wrong with people

Maybe its because she has SN that she doesnt fully get why it would be offensive?

You're obviously not being unreasonable, why would you be? You know that its wrong, she obviously doesn't think it is. Nothing you can do except hope she doesn't say it to the wrong person.

Wow.

She sounds a bit un-enlightened, to say the least

It is a very offensive phrase and one which should ever go unchallenged, so well done OP.

As YourKids says though, maybe her own SN make it difficult to empathise with other people's feelings, or mean she doesn't actually fully understand the nastiness of the word.

I hate it when people pull the "Someone I know has SN and are okay with it" card. (Generalizing there as OP specifically mentioned the person she was speaking too had SN, but it's not far off) Just because you/someone you know doesn't find it offensive don't imply we all feel that way! DS1 is severely disabled. I am not okay with the R word. It's not a monolith, you don't get to speak for everyone!

/Rant.

There was a brigade of my "sons brother/ my uncles cats mums sister" has special needs and I wasn't offended.

It shocks me that they all think it's a legitimate way to 'insult' someone.

I really don't like it when people speak like that.It's a lack of creative abilities on their behalf

If she isn't offended fair play and I'm sure her SN may well be the reason that she thinks you should just get over it.

My brothers friends cat DS has Asperger's and he would probably be more offended by being called stupid or daft than what the numpty woman said TBH...its just the way he relates to the words.

It is obviously offensive, but I wonder if the next acceptable word we have for people with special needs will ultimately become unacceptable. For example I know people who will say "She/He must be special" or "they are a special needs case" when someone has done something silly.

Maybe we should just accept that language will always be used to express and hurt, and wordings will continually evolve, so maybe we should try to be less offended by certain language when people are not meaning it in the context with which they are saying, as in the OP's.

I REALLY hate this word...my DD is severely disabled and along with a few other words it makes me wanna spit when i hear it.

Unfortunately it's commen coin amongst teenagers today.

She wasn't a teenager! A 30 year old mother though