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AIBU?

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To say this to friend? She has cut off the friendship

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kittykathat · 01/12/2014 06:57

we work together at night sometimes and i dont mind dropping her home as she gives me gas money. So we have had this arrangement for a while now.
Today we worked 9pm - 6am
She decided to go to her day job after
However she left night job late
So she messaged me (she was at trainS) and ask if i can drop her to work which was way way out of my way, on the other side of london

I messaged her back saying "my car doesnt run on water"
She text me bk basically saying she "was" going to offer me gas money, how im rude and to never chat to her again
So i told her it isnt my fault she is late
Then she said that she wont block me but dont talk to her ever again

Its 6am, im tired and frankly i dont think she was going to offer me money because she would if said straight away, am i wrong here?

She has asked me to drop her to go shopping before (for free) so you can see why i feel this way

I feel she is ungrateful. She doesnt live by me i have to go in a big circle to drop her home which i do every weekend and she behaves like this because i wont drop her on the other side of london at 6am?
Just cut me off like that?

Was i being a dickhead here?

I have deleted her num n i wont contact her again. Just want opinions on this
Thank you

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ilovesooty · 01/12/2014 08:44

You've posted about her before haven't you? Her request was unreasonable and your reply was aggressive and rude. Sounds as though you're well shot of each other.

furcoatbigknickers · 01/12/2014 08:48

Your reply was rude, a no sorry would have done. Shes a bit ott too and the cunt word out of order

wheresthelight · 01/12/2014 08:49

you weren't unreasonable nit to give her a lift but the way you went about it was very unreasonable.

she politely asked yiu a question and your response was incredibly rude and obnoxious. in return she has fallen out with you which frankly I don't blame her for.

CocktailQueen · 01/12/2014 08:53

She called you a cunt? Over a lift???

Wow. Delete her, don't give her lifts. Sounds like it's not working out for either of you.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 01/12/2014 10:00

LaurieFairyCake Mon 01-Dec-14 08:25:16 - And is this Liftzilla The Revenge? "Episode 2, different people, same crazy entitled shit you love."

LOL!!! I was just thinking the same thing

WhatchaMaCalllit · 01/12/2014 10:03

(pressed "Post Message" too soon)
Except for the possibility that I think iambeing wouldn't use language like that or be that agressive in a reply to Liftzilla, it has all the hallmarks of being Part 2 - Cars, Gas and everything in between

MissBattleaxe · 01/12/2014 10:47

YANBU. She had a bloody nerve to ask you. There are buses, trains and taxis in London and just because she pays you for work lifts doesn't make you her out of hours chauffeur.

Macloveswill · 01/12/2014 10:59

Oh yes....you were both being V U!!! I would never talk to a friend the way the pair of you spoke to each other. Are you both like 12?!

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks · 01/12/2014 11:03

Are you American OP? Or is calling it "gas" a new UK thing?

You were rude.

Fallingovercliffs · 01/12/2014 11:25

I agree with the majority on here. You were both out of order. Your reply was very rude and her reaction was way OTT.

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kittykathat · 01/12/2014 12:15

Thanks for reply, i can see why it may be rude i did say before to her no and basically she kept badgering me saying she is asking a favour, then i gave that reply
I know i should of made that clear to you guys.
I havent posted this before its first time

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MoistSponge · 01/12/2014 12:19

I would love a car that ran on water. It would be ace.

You bunch of cunts

Primaryteach87 · 01/12/2014 12:38

You had every right to politely say no, but instead you chose to be shockingly rude. No wonder you got the response you did....

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 01/12/2014 12:43

Rules of AIBU all relevant info needs to be given at the beginning. Friend asking for a favour and you sending back a snippy response is vastly different to friend asking for favour, you politely declining and friend continuing to badger you about it until you send snippy response.

Come on OP play the game fair and square otherwise it's AIBU? Oh really, I am? Well in that case AIBU if I give you some rather crucial info that I missd out in the first post?

Original poster

kittykathat · 01/12/2014 12:51

I know Now i was trying to shorten the text n just get to the basis of the argument but i see why i got the tesponses i did

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ilovesooty · 01/12/2014 13:24

This particular situation might not have been posted before but I'm sure the people involved were on a thread only this weekend. As the friend was already felt to be piss taking I'm sure the friendship will be no loss to you.

Aeroflotgirl · 01/12/2014 14:29

Yes you were very rude, you çoukd have said no you cannot, or tgat you would need petrol money as its out of the way.

Aeroflotgirl · 01/12/2014 14:32

Oh right ok, well she does not sound much of a friend tbh

Moniker1 · 01/12/2014 14:34

You've both just worked 9pm to 6 am and have had a fall out - jeesh I wonder why that might have been.

I would let it go and see how you both feel after some decent sleep.

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kittykathat · 01/12/2014 15:29

I think the friendship is over now tbh. I just think she thinks she has no use for me now as she has another night job now.
It was just this sunday she came back to the old place.
Im seeing the true colours now

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