to be sick of comments about my son's weight?

[IfPigsCouldOnlyFly]

I get it all time from strangers. 'He's a big boy', 'what is your mummy feeding you?' that kind of thing.

MIL, who I normally get along with, expresses disapproval every time he is given a bit of cake or a chip. 'Should he really be having that'.

My mum has now started referring to him all the time as her 'chunky monkey'.

Both mum and MIL know I've been battling an eating disorder since I was a teenager. I'm terrified of passing on my food issues to DS. I've been trying really hard to keep the emotion out of his meals and to be led by him. But they are making it really hard.

To cap it all I took him for his 18 month check up last week. I was prepared for the talk about his weight and how I'm a rubbish parent. HV says his weight is completely fine. He's on the 50th percentile for both weight and height.

Any advice on how to tell them to fuck off without actually telling them to fuck off?

Once you have a baby people seem to think they can pass comment freely, well from pregnancy really. My son is small for his age, but he is fit as a fiddle. Everything is in proportion & as the hv always said "well someone's got to be one of rhe smallest." That was always reassuring. He had a tricky start though & terrible trouble latching, so when people commented on how small he was it made me feel like I wasn't feeding him enough, even though that was utter bollocks. He was a total milk monster, fed on demand. It always annoyed me how people felt/feel the need to comment on his size. Bottom line, people are rude & comment on the first thing that comes into their heads.

Tell your family that he is healthy & their comments are not helpful.