Ainu to think that this is a form of child abuse

[Themotherofmonkeys]

A boy in ds class year 10 (who looks fine not ugly at all) has had 2 cosmetic surgeries at 15. Surely it can't be legal to have plastic surgery for purely cosmetic reasons at 15. I am also concerned about the boy promoting this. In fact I'm completely gobsmacked.

After your last posting, I find your opinion on this to be ill-informed and judgemental.

I'm absolutely certain no parent or doctor undertakes these things lightly on a child and it is certainly not 'child abuse'. You don't know the whole story, just the word of a kid from the word of a kid. It's none of your business and I'm kind of astounded you think it is.

I've seen the boy and he had no problems his ears quite frankly I've seen models with ears that stick out more ds ears stick out more their was no problem. His nose was completely fine as well

Is having your jaw 'done' a very common cosmetic procedure? I was offered it, at the age of 14, as my jaw is very misaligned but declined it. Technically, it was offered only partly due to the function of my jaw.

I had my ears pinned back when I was 6. I had it done that young as my mother had been made to wait until she was 15 and had suffered bullying.
They were huge and at right angles, but the surgery was purely cosmetic.

I had what was known then as bat ear pinnaplasty www.nhs.uk/conditions/ear-reshaping/Pages/Introduction.aspx

Are you party to the boy's medical records?

I think you need to get your facts straight before crying child abuse. It's really not your business and as others pointed it out a doctor would not do this. Really not your business.

No it isn't child abuse.

Actually, would a plastic surgeon carry out such a procedure on someone that age?

I think someone is shitting you to be honest.

I could understand if a parent had something their dc would be bullied for birth marks scars and sticking out ears or badly broken nose. If it was done by nhs which would mean that it was a good idea but not to get a square jaw and to slighted a tip. That is morally bankrupt 18 fine not a child aged 15

Do you have access to his medical records?

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/womens-blog/2014/apr/28/cosmetic-surgery-and-teenagers-disaster-waiting-to-happen

But OP, you simply cannot make an informed comment since you don't have access to the boy's medical records.

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/3227396.stm

But I can only comment on what I know and have observed and the child's mother obviously has had a lot done as well (can't move forehead)

I think your getting a bit over involved in teenage gossip if I am honest.

The boy is lying

Unless reasons stated a teenager doesn't not get plastic surgery without it being normalised/encouraged by family.

If my DS had wanted the surgery, both me and his surgeon would have supported it. The surgeon actually suggested it, we didn't go looking for it.

But we would have lied to school friends. Because, quite frankly, it's none of their business.

I don't believe that a surgeon, private or NHS, would perform purely cosmetic* jaw and nose surgery on a 15 year old in this country.

*and by cosmetic I mean to change an averagely shaped nose/chin into something solely more "beautiful".

Having said that, braces are often uncomfortable, involve years of treatment, fairly drastic oral surgery (loss of teeth, permanent reshaping of jaw), can involve a life time of maintenance to ensure repositioning is retained, and we don't bat an eyelid at them.

Frau I'm sure that if a surgeon suggested it there was probably a reason for the surgery .

My brother had his jaw done when he was about 17 - it is quite a horrific operation which involves having the jaw wired closed for 2 weeks, and a liquid only diet. Also, quite scary bruising and swelling.

But it was not considered 'cosmetic' - it was orthodontic - he had a very protruding lower jaw, which caused various problems.

I hope nobody would consider my parents child abusers - they may be a bit annoying, but they're not abusive

I would consider having an older child's ears pinned back if they wanted it - I wouldn't consider it child abuse.

There was, OP. But you would never have known. And your son would have thought it was just for the sake of it, because we never would have told.

Because it's not your business.

Do you think braces are child abuse op? What about ear reshaping?

I think you're getting very get up about school gossip TBH.

You don't know this boy. You are not privy to his medical history. So how can you know it was unnecessary? Let alone toss allegations of child abuse about?

And if you'd as much as hinted child abuse at me I'd have had your guts for garters.

You sound like a judgy sanctimous gossip.