To expect my siblings to remember my childrens Birthdays....

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Just that really - as they are getting older I am getting more upset with it as the children are noticing. A present or card a few days later just does not cut it. My sister has children so I am not sure why she does not get this, brothers don't but still, it is crap. Rant over

I think you have to remember that no one is as interested in your children as you are.

My sister reminds me about my nieces birthdays. That works well for me!

My family are a bit crap at birthdays so we try to remember Christmas...

I'll probably sound like a mean old skinflint hypocrite but what the hell. I can't be arsed with birthdays any more, my own included. I'll make an exception for my Dad (and Mum prior to her passing earlier this year) but that's all. I'm vaguely aware of some disapproval from my six siblings and umpteen nieces and nephews but nothing seems to be said any more. My Mum was never happy with my attitude but she at least accepted it was (is) the way I am.

My brother normally remembers, but my BIL (DH's brother) has never sent any of our DC a birthday card or Christmas card.

I never got a thank you card/phone call/text in the years I did send them to my nieces/nephews/godchildren so now I don't bother.

I used to phone to check they had received the present and spoke to Mum/Dad and they said thank you and I see them often but never got a thank you from the child.

My goddaughter's Mum once said to me "She hates sending thank you letters so why should she"! Jeez!

Had they sent even a simple card I would have continued with the presents.

I know that does not apply to you OP but that is my reason.

I try remember to get cards to my nieces/nephews within the month of their birthday... Usually there is twenty quid in the card, and it seems to be appreciated even if it is late... For some December birthdays I just send one card, happy birthday, happy Christmas & happy new year. You would hate that I bet!!

My side sends birthday cards to my DDs. DHs side doesn't, except for MIL. I only send cards to those families who send them to DDs.

Relax, it's not a priority for everyone.

Completely shocked people think YABU. I think it's quite pathetic if your own siblings can not remember their niece/nephews birthday! Wtf is the world coming to if your considered BU for feeling a bit gutted that your siblings forgot your kids bday!

As demonstrated by these threads, some people care, some dont, and they treat others' birthdays accordingly. So yanbu, but neither is she. Incidently what would happen if you sent a present 3 months late?

YABU.

We do remember DH's nieces and nephews' birthdays but usually a bit late. We've had one thank-you card ever. We enjoyed them much more until we were complained at for forgetting one - making grown adults feel like naughty children is not the way to win them over to your cause. We are better at remembering now but feel bitter - it was better beforehand when we were late but loving.

We love them very much but generally no-one is as interested in your kids as you are.

I am relaxed about it but just think putting a card in the post is just a nice gesture. I'm very interested in my siblings children, and would hope they are in mine too! Anyway, today my dd was 10 and in double digits, one did card and pressie and turned up as a surprise, one a phone call and one nothing so I guess that's a result

My dad doesn't even remember my sons birthday. My sons dad thought his birthday was the day before it actually is.

If be grateful if they just remembered!

YANBU I have a lot of nieces and nephews (12 last count) plus 4 children of my own, I would never dream of forgetting any of their birthdays. I bung them all in the calendar and that's it.
My brothers and sister manage it just fine too.

My siblings rarely remember my DCs birthday.

Once Dsis paid for a very big treat "because I never remember their birthdays". It was way better than a load of birthday presents or cards put together.

One Godparent remembers their birthdays.

At the end of the day, if my DC needed one of their Aunts/Uncles or Godparents, 6 out of 8 of them would be there for them like a shot, no questions asked. So I can over look them being totally crap and remembering birthdays.

In my case I don't think my family forget about birthdays, they just don't see birthdays as a big deal. We were never the sort of family where everything stopped for someone's birthday, or everyone went out for dinner because it was someone's birthday. My parents never bought each other birthday cards. Consequently it has been quite a shock for me as an adult to find that other people think birthdays are a big thing. It doesn't mean they are wrong, or that I am wrong, just that we have different views of what is the norm.

That should say my parents never bought each other birthday presents, not that they didn't buy each other cards.

I suspect my family think I am very high maintenance because my husband buys me a birthday present, I don't think any of my siblings get birthday presents from their husbands, I suspect the rest of my family think it is very vulgar to enjoy receiving a present.

Is it that you remember and make an effort to send a card and present to your siblings kids and they don't even bother to put a card in the post that pisses you off? Cos it would me.

I use to send a card to my Aunt and I never got one back. Didn't think too much of it until I turned 40 and I'd recently started a new job and my new workmates really pushed the boat out and made a huge fuss of me and I thought my Aunt might send a card as it was a milestone birthday but nope, nothing. Even though her daughter (my cousin) also turned 40 exactly a month before me. I thought if my new workmates who didn't know that much about me can go to the trouble of making a huge deal about my birthday but one of my own family can't be arsed to post a card then that's not right. So I stopped sending her card.

And surprise surprise I found out she was miffed when she didn't get one from me like she usually did.