AIBU to think housework gets split 50:50?

[Jessica85]

We both wear clothes that need washing, walk on floors that need mopping, eat food from plates that need cleaning and sleep in bed sheets that need changing. Surely we should split household tasks equally?!

I teach, and we earn the same, though he works longer hours than me in the holidays and I work longer hours than him in term time.

So how do you split chores? Does it matter if one person works longer hours, or earns more money?

In your situation OP yes, it's fair chores are 50/50.

It depends on the situation I think as to how chores are split. I work a lot less hours than DH so do the lions share of the chores. Someone further up the thread said it didn't matter if one person works longer hours than the other, of course it does! Personally I couldn't sit on my arse for half the week waiting on DH to come in and expect him to do his half. That's just ridiculous and bloody lazy!

I cook (most of the time), Hoover, dust, clean the kitchen and bathroom (minus the floors). Hubs washes up, cleans the kitchen and bathroom floor, does the laundry including ironing and cleans the windows indoors.

I'm a teacher, he's a human. He does more than me in term time, I do more in holidays.

I earned after 20 years 10x what he did - both worked full time but I would not say whether you are female or male that should affect who does what. Although if you earn a lot you can obviously afford someone to help too. I remember the first time (after a very hard time with 3 children under 4 and then 3 under 5 ) the relief when for the first time we could afford a cleaner three times a week. Money obviously helped.

But what helped most of all is that we both like tidy surfaces and a clean house and things put away at the time so no conflicts there.

Also I should say to people with younger children my youngest are teenagers now and it's all a walk in the park. It's really really easy. There aren't plastic toys all over the house. There is just loads of time and they can sleep to lunch time at weekends. Suddenly as children get bigger all those years of trying to get all the chores done are over. So when they are small you just have to stick it out for a few years and then it's easier.

On those discussing situations where one of you does shorter hours I have known two men who worked full time, their wife did virtually nothing at home and the man got home to most of the childcare and cleaning.

I don't think the split is important as ong as you are both happy. if you think he should do more then tell him.

I'm a sahm but dh does as much as me at times. Then there are times I do much more than him.
The kids do their fair share as well, so everyone's happy.
We tend to do what needs doing when it needs doing and don't bother who does it tbh.

At the moment, I am doing the bulk as he is getting over an op, but usually we split it fairly evenly. I work, he is at home (for now, and I am also home for now as been signed off though hoping to return to work about mid Dec).

We cook together, well, he chops (as he is faster and more accurate as he is a chef) and lifts/drains pots (as I physically can't due to my disability) and I cook as I enjoy it more.

He does the dishes and I wipe down the surfaces/brush the floor.

We both do washing and nobody does ironing

He keeps the livingroom tidy and I clean the bathroom.

All other stuff just gets done when one of us notices

Chores should definitely be done equally, yanbu

He does more as I work longer hours. Plus I am messy and he is more bothered :D