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To get really annoyed with people telling me what I should and shouldn't do? Pregnancy

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Sockstealer · 24/11/2014 22:51

So I'm pregnant and so another x amount of months of unwanted opinions.

Suddenly people I barely know seem to know what's best for me.

From memory it doesn't get any better once the baby is born either.

Why does everyone have an opinion.

Apparently I shouldn't be decorating, carrying things, taking paracetomal for a headache, I definitely should not be having a home birth as it's selfish and dangerous, I should/should not have a flu jab (depending on who's butting into my conversation), if I dare to express unhappiness about any given situation I 'shouldn't be worrying', or 'I'm stressing myself out'. Which is apparently not good for the baby. I should/shouldn't give the baby it's brothers hand me downs as it will/will not give the baby a complex.

News flash, women having been having babies for years, I've managed to bring one child up without any major disasters, I'll follow current medical advice along with a dose of experience and common sense.

And if I want your opinion I'll ask for it.

Rant over.

OP posts:
toffeecrispandacupoftea · 25/11/2014 12:55

It drove me mad with DD. The worst was all the really obvious things that as a pregnant women you would clearly not be capable of thinking of - someone told me to remember to breath at one point!!

I am now about 10wks with DC2 and we are planning to wait as long as possible before telling friends (and randoms) this time for exactly this reason. I am not ill, I am not incompetent, I am actually still capable of making day to day decisions, I am just PG!

I have been secretly wondering if a stranger makes a ridiculous suggestions/observation this time, whether to say all the way through that actually I am just fat not PG! - I don't think I really would as that is a bit mean and would make them feel terrible but it is funny to think about it Hmm

hellyhants · 25/11/2014 21:29

I hated it too. Smile sweetly and ignore the advice you think is silly, and take the advice that you may find useful :)

I only had one child - I had no idea that people STILL give you unwanted advice with 2nd, 3rd , 4th etc pg's. :(

Idontseeanysontarans · 25/11/2014 21:39

You get it the third time as well.
It does vary though because at the grand old age of 36 I was an Older Mother (the MW wrote it on my notes.. I almost growled at her) and obviously too irresponsible to know how to give birth to and be responsible for a newborn. Oh and I HB'd as well Grin

kulashaker · 26/11/2014 14:14

i hear you OP! i have 'that' friend who is an expert on everything, when i planned my wedding she was advising me all the way through how is best to do things!

now im pregnant she is doing the same and driving me nuts! sometimes i havent even finished my sentence and she has butted in to tell me what i should be doing instead! it gets to the point i dont want to talk about pregnancy/when the baby comes, stop telling me what i should be doing! im not an idiot!!!

I think though they generally think they are helping, and dont mean to be over bearing, and i am sure most people would be mortified if they thought they were annoying you. Just smile and nod, and do whatever you want to do anyway!

Mammanat222 · 26/11/2014 14:21

32 weeks here and the only comments I have really received have been about my size (measuring bang on at last appointment so not overly massive)

I also have one person at work - my male MD - who does a double take every time he sees me and say "are you still here? Have you got your dates right?"

Urm yes I am still fucking here, if you want me to go on maternity leave early then I'll happily do so, knob!

*I see MD a few times a week and these comments have been going on for months!

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