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To ask DH to take nude pics down in the room that I tutor

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bananacarnival · 24/11/2014 14:18

DH is an artist, his paintings are all abstract and all over the house but his sketches of male nudes have been making an appearance in our living room which happens to be where I tutor children (primary).
He's adamant that there's nothing wrong with it and gets agitated every time I take a sketch down before I tutor. I'm wary of children's reactions as well as some of the parents, as they're not all cultured/broad minded or whatever it is you need to be to be accepting of nudity in Art. Some of them are religious and it just makes me feel uncomfortable about their potential reaction.
I should point out that with the current sketch on display there's a bum on view - no genitals.

Thanks in advance.

OP posts:
Castlemilk · 24/11/2014 18:58

What causes his agitation? The fact that they have been moved or that he thinks someone doesn't like them?

I'm guessing he likes to make some noisy adolescent Point about Art and thinks he's bravely fighting blinkered suburban attitudes on all fronts.

Like I said, kind of like a het-up undergraduate who is Angry that we Just Don't Understand Grin

LurcioAgain · 24/11/2014 19:07

My mum was an artist and for a while taught life drawing in the local university. She considered it the most technically demanding part of an artist's training as well as fascinating in its own right. She also taught in secondary schools for many years. I'm pretty sure she'd have said it was inappropriate. Context is all.

FreeWee · 24/11/2014 19:42

Thebodynowchillingsothere
Do you earn more from your tutoring than your Picasso does from his art?

Lol! OP as many others have said YANBU. What's appropriate in the home is not always appropriate in a workplace, which when you're tutoring your home is a workplace. Mechanics have naked ladies calendars in their workplaces. Would not go down well in a school staff room for example!

ocelot41 · 24/11/2014 20:01

YANBU. My DF is an amateur artist and draws female nudes - boobs and bush and all. Not just bums! They were relegated to my parents' bedroom and DF's private study. Partly because DF tutored and DM ( in her wisdom) said it would be embarrass students who are already acutely aware of their developing bodies. Plus they really don't need to be thinking about their maths tutor looking at naked ladies! They just need to focus on learning their sums or whatever.

YouAreMyRain · 24/11/2014 20:12

What grumbleina said. No child (that I have met in 16 yrs of teaching) can resist getting excited and distracted by nudity. It would just be distracting. Your DH sounds a bit pompous, as if he thinks that he knows best and wants to educate the uncultured masses who might be having their dc tutored by you.

That would annoy me. A lot.

JeanneDeMontbaston · 25/11/2014 13:59

Oh, honestly.

I tutor adult students and some of my work is on, not to be blunt, sex and penises. I don't go around flashing those books and images under their noses while they're trying to say intelligent things about narrative structure because it would be fucking weird. Of course it's going to be weird with primary school children!

grumbleina has it right.

Your DH probably thinks he's exposing children to the Wonders of Art. They just think there is a room full of willies.

Bunbaker · 25/11/2014 19:34

Your last sentence made me and OH laugh out loud Jeannette

FannyBlott · 25/11/2014 19:46

YANBU! I suspect most kids would either feel uncomfortable or find it hilarious. Both would be distracting. Also if a parent complains that their child saw nude pictures whilst being tutored at your house it could cause some issues for you professionally from a child protection point of view.
He's a twat!

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