My husband left about 5 weeks ago, just before my birthday. There had been a lot of arguing, I felt he was abusive and he said I was. I have post natal depression and have seen the GP about it and been referred to a CPN and for counselling/CBT.
DH has said repeatedly, often during rows/when in very upset, that he doesn't love me. However, we have agreed to go to counselling and try and save the marriage. He visits most days to see the DC/help with bedtimes and usually has dinner here. Sometimes he leaves straight after that, sometimes he stays a while.
He occasionally asks if I want a hug, sometimes gives me a quick 'peck' as he leaves. He's never been overly affectionate. He says he's a angry and hurt, but I'm not sure if he is deliberately withholding affection to 'teach me a lesson'.
He went out last night with some friends. It turned out their wives went too and he mentioned it when he got here at lunchtime today. I said I felt a bit upset as I hadn't been invited and although I was upset, I was just taking to him, not arguing or anything. He told me to 'stop fucking going on' to which I replied taking to me like that wasn't likely to help and he then got up and left. His phone has been turned off since. I've sent a few texts, at first just saying I didn't wasn't to argue and to come back and we could just enjoy the day with the DC. Then just to say I was a little worried and could he please let me know he's ok.
He was upset when he left, he looked close to tears and although turning his phone off or ignoring me is typical behaviour, not for this long. He lives at his work and his car isn't there and he hadn't got much money or anywhere else to go.
I'm not sure what to think tbh.